19 | Unworthy to Beloved: Breaking Generational Trauma | Hidden Barriers #11

Do you find yourself giving endlessly—your time, your care, your energy—but struggling to receive anything in return? Maybe you feel guilty when you rest, or you can't accept a compliment without deflecting. Maybe buying yourself something beautiful feels selfish, or letting someone help you feels like you're being a burden.

Episode Description

In this episode, we explore the "I'm Unworthy" barrier and discover that worthiness is not something you earn—it's something you remember. Through Kristina's transformation story from living on "Legality Hill" to delighting in God's presence, you'll uncover how religious environments confuse unworthiness with humility and self-erasure with holiness. This isn't about becoming self-focused—it's about recognizing that you are a polished gemstone, worthy of God's delight, and your transformation can help others find freedom.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ How "I'm Unworthy" gets installed when service turns into self-erasure and you learn that rest equals laziness

→ What this barrier is costing you in your relationships, spiritual life, self-care, and physical body right now

→ Why God takes great delight in you—not just your service, but in YOU—and rejoices over you with singing

→ The shift from believing you exist to serve to understanding your worth is in who you are, not what you do

→ One practice this week to receive gracefully without guilt, deflection, or feeling like you owe something in return

Healing Truth

Worthiness is not something you earn. It's something you remember. You were born worthy, and that worth has never been in question. God doesn't just value your service—He takes great delight in you. He rejoices over you with singing. You don't have to prove your worth through endless giving and self-sacrifice. Rest, joy, and care aren't just for other people—they're for you too. You are a polished gemstone, worthy of God's delight, and your transformation will help others find their freedom.

Ready to go deeper?

Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.

Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. In Milestone 11, you'll document your transformation story and recognize yourself as the hero of your own journey—worthy of God's delight.

About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

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This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.