19: From Shattered Confidence to Grounded Authority

When betrayal shatters your sense of trust, confidence can feel like it disappears overnight. Decisions become harder. Self-doubt creeps in. Leadership—something that once felt natural—suddenly feels forced and fragile. In this episode, Dr. Debi Silber shares how confidence after betrayal isn't something you "get back"—it's something you rebuild, deeper and stronger than before. You'll discover how healing turns shaken leaders into grounded, unshakable ones, and learn a practical daily exercise—the 3 Wins Reflection—to restore steady confidence, clarity, and trust in your leadership. True authority doesn't come from perfection. It comes from presence. And the leaders who heal betrayal don't just recover—they rise steadier than ever. What You'll Learn in This Episode ●  Why betrayal shatters external confidence but opens the door to inner authority ●  The difference between performing confidence and embodying it ●  How healing betrayal builds grounded self-trust and authentic leadership ●  A 3-step "Wins Reflection" to retrain your brain to recognize progress and strength ●  How daily evidence of growth becomes the foundation for unshakable confidence ●  Why steady leadership outlasts uncertainty, criticism, and change Quick Tool: The 3 Wins Reflection Each morning, before diving into your day, identify three small wins from the past 24 hours. They don't have to be big—just real. Did you stay calm in a hard moment? Speak a truth? Honor a boundary? Each win is proof that you're rebuilding trust in yourself. Over time, these small acknowledgments create the steady foundation of confidence you can stand on—no matter what comes next. Resources The PBT Institute Transform Program with Dr. Debi and her Certified PBT® Coaches