185. The Control Pattern Driving Your High-Functioning Burnout

Control is a belief your nervous system learned a long time ago… the belief that if you stay on top of everything, nothing bad will happen.

The problem is that belief doesn’t know when to stop. And the cost of running it every single day is higher than most high-achieving women realize.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• What control actually is (and why it’s a nervous system pattern)
• Where the need to control comes from
• How control shows up in business
• How control shows up at home
• Why your nervous system is exhausted
• The one question that interrupts the control spiral
• How to train your brain toward safety
• Ash reads from her personal writing on vitiligo, control, and the thing she still hasn’t figured out how to stop trying to fix

THE POINT:

Every time you hand something off and it works out, every time you take a day off and your business is still there, every time you don’t pivot and the thing you were doing actually holds… you’re teaching your nervous system what’s true. That’s the work.

MENTIONED:

• Episode 179 — Decision Fatigue Is the New Burnout (the middle school / false emergency story Ash references)

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MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

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