172- From Pain to Pleasure // Tools, Toys & Supportive Strategies for Comfortable Intimacy

If you’ve been following this series on pain with intimacy, you now understand: ✔️ What might be causing your pain ✔️ How mental load and nervous system stress impact arousal ✔️ Why pushing through makes things worse ✔️ Practical rehab strategies to reduce tension Now let’s talk about something we don’t normalize enough: Supportive tools. Because using tools does not mean you’re broken. It means you’re intentional. In this final episode of the series, we’re discussing the different tools and toys that can reduce pain, improve blood flow, calm guarding, and help you rebuild positive experiences in your body — safely and confidently. In This Episode, We Cover: Why tools can help retrain pain pathways The connection between blood flow, arousal, and pelvic floor relaxation How graded exposure reduces guarding Why friction (not failure) is often the problem The role of pleasure in nervous system regulation If pain continues, worsens, or feels deeply triggering, it’s time to see a pelvic floor PT. The Bigger Reframe Tools are not a crutch. They are bridges. Bridges between pain and safety. Between guarding and openness. Between survival and pleasure. Pleasure is not indulgent. It is nervous system medicine. Want Structured Guidance? Inside the Pelvic Floor, Core & More App, there is a FREE Masterclass: From Pain to Pleasure that you can access inside the app here: https://pelvic-floor-core-more.passion.io/ Or if you want more guidance join my 12 wk RESTORE program, where we combine: Breathwork Nervous system regulation Mobility and downtraining Core and pelvic floor coordination Progressive strengthening So you’re not guessing which tools to use — or when. (More on what this is and how to join below) And if your pain is complex, trauma-related, or persistent, 1:1 pelvic floor PT may be your best next step. You don’t have to navigate this alone. This wraps our Pain with Intimacy series — but healing doesn’t end here. Your body is not broken. It is layered. And layered healing is possible. ~ XO Dr. Des 💛 Tools/Toys Mentioned in this episode: Lubricants: water based: https://a.co/d/0aQmddMG silicone based: https://a.co/d/0cCFnzCQ Pelvic Floor Dilators and Wands: http://intimaterose.com/DESIREE2 Ohnut and Kiwi (vibration/massage tool combo) and other great products: https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products 🌀 Ready to feel stronger, more confident, and in tune with what it needs? If you’re done guessing and googling… If you’re ready to stop modifying your workouts out of fear… If you’re ready to move, lift, run, and LIVE without leaking, pain, or pressure... Then it’s time for RESTORE — my 12-week signature pelvic floor & core rehab program Evidence-based. Nervous system-informed. Holistically healing. Inside RESTORE you’ll get: ✔️ 12 weeks of progressive breathwork, mobility & strength ✔️ 5- and 20-minute workouts to fit your life ✔️ Deep pelvic floor education (with zero fluff) ✔️ Real-life tools to reduce pain, improve leaks, and feel like YOU again ✔️ Access to our private community and support Inside RESTORE, we cover: Breathwork + pelvic floor connection Mobility + posture Nervous system regulation Core control + strength building Real-life application to everyday movement And how to stop leaking, rushing to the bathroom, or feeling disconnected from your core You’ll walk away from RESTORE with clarity, confidence, and a body you trust again. JOIN RESTORE NOW FOR INSTANT ACCESS TO LESSONS AND EXERCISES!! https://pelvic-floor-core-more.passion.io/checkout/86181d29-9811-4a33-80df-a82de21fa8fe Or 💎 Learn More About RESTORE below, my 12-week program that walks you step by step through pelvic floor and core healing — so you can stop leaking, reduce prolapse symptoms, and feel strong again. https://balancedmomtality.com/restore 💖 Or Want Personalized 1:1 Coaching and Support? Book a virtual or in-person women’s health coaching/pelvic floor physical therapy session tailored to YOU. 📧 Email: [e-mail] ✨ Next Steps: 📲 Download the Pelvic Floor, Core & More App → for guided breathwork, mobility, and strength progressions you can do at home. - Download PCM App iTunes: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/pelvic-floor-core-more/id6740750561 - Download PCM App Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.pqw8e051gua.pmh8skrtsapp&pcampaignid=web_share Or Access Inside the web Browser: https://pelvic-floor-core-more.passion.io/ 🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe to Pelvic Floor, Core & More so you never miss an empowering episode about pelvic floor health, core strength, and whole-body healing. 👉 If this episode resonated with you, share it with a mom friend who needs to hear that healing is possible. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an empowering conversation about pelvic health, core strength, and whole-body ...