160 | Coach Carrie Answers a Question: Handling Unwanted Advice

"The most frustrating thing is when older women in their 70s and 80s keep pestering me when I'm injured. I call them the 'I-told-you-so ladies.' I feel like they're giving me unsolicited advice and discouraging me to go back to lifting. Sometimes their comments hurt. One lady is a retired bodybuilder and a personal trainer in her 80s who had a hip replacement and the other lady is just an average Joe who doesn't lift weights but got a knee replacement. Please help me how to deal with those two! I just hate it when people in general give me unsolicited advice." —Nicole Everyone is entitled to their own opinions—but when they have unwelcome ideas about your recovery and then share them with you, the result can impact your mood and mindset. In this week's listener Q&A, Coach Carrie offers some insightful guidance on exactly how to cope with people like the "I-told-you-so ladies". You can start by realizing that often, their advice has way more to do with them than it does with you. Then, you can apply a mental filter so your brain perceives it as merely an opinion rather than a threat. From there, you can decide how to respond based on how you want to feel after the conversation. She even offers a few simple scripts that may help you defuse tense interactions, so you walk away feeling positive and confident. Resources/links: Buy our book Rebound: Train Your Mind to Bounce Back Stronger from Sports Injuries, and turn to page 135 for the Found in Translation exerciseDownload the worksheets that go with the book A huge thank you to LEVER Movement, the exclusive sponsor of season 9 of The Injured Athletes Club podcast! They're the creators of the LEVER system, a portable, lightweight device that attaches to a treadmill to reduce your body weight. Use the code INJURED20 to get 20% off your purchase here. You can subscribe to The Injured Athletes Club on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, Amazon Music, or wherever you get your podcasts, and if you like what you hear, please leave us a rating or a review in Apple podcasts. That helps other injured athletes find the show. To access more resources for injured athletes: Buy Rebound: Train Your Mind to Bounce Back Stronger from Sports Injuries —now available as an audiobook!Buy Injured Athletes Club merchandise, including hoodies, stickers, patches, journals, mugs, hats, and gift cardsAccess webinar videos, mental rehab e-courses, and more great resources for injured athletes while supporting our workJoin The Injured Athletes Club mailing list, for news and updatesJoin The Injured Athletes Club Facebook group, for support and camaraderieLike The Injured Athletes Club Podcast Facebook page, for the latest episodesEmail us at [e-mail] with questions, guest suggestions, or other feedback DISCLAIMER: This content is for educational & informational use only and & does not constitute medical advice. Do not disregard, avoid or delay obtaining medical or health related advice from your health-care professional because of something you may have heard in an episode of this podcast. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult with a qualified medical professional for proper evaluation & treatment. Guests who speak on this podcast express their own opinions, experiences, and conclusions, and The Injured Athletes Club podcast hosts nor any company providing financial support endorses or opposes any particular treatment option discussed in the episodes of this podcast and are not responsible for any actions or inactions of listeners based on the information presented. The use of any information provided is solely at your own risk.