#140: What MOST PEOPLE Get Wrong About Dry January

Dry January is often framed as a test of willpower or a thirty-one-day challenge to get through. But for a lot of people, the hardest part is not avoiding alcohol. It is sitting with what shows up when alcohol is no longer there to do its usual job.

In this episode, I talk about a different way to approach Dry January, not as a detox, a countdown, or something to endure until February, but as a simple and honest experiment.

We explore why focusing on when the month ends often prevents real insight, how alcohol quietly fills roles like stress relief, boredom management, and emotional regulation, and why the discomfort many people feel during Dry January is actually useful information rather than something to push through.

I also share how to shift from judging individual hard days to noticing patterns, what questions to ask yourself without turning the month into a pressure-filled decision point, and how awareness creates clarity without forcing resolutions.

If you are sober curious, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or feeling restless or unsure during Dry January, this episode will help you slow down, pay attention, and use the month to learn something meaningful about yourself instead of just counting down the days.

Episode highlights:

0:00 – Why Dry January is not about whether you drink in February
1:09 – Why most people struggle with how they think about Dry January
2:00 – Using Dry January as an experiment instead of a challenge
3:31 – How alcohol quietly fills emotional and mental roles
4:49 – Why discomfort is actually useful information
5:23 – Shifting from discipline to curiosity
6:48 – Noticing patterns instead of judging individual days
8:12 – Why you do not need to decide what comes next yet
8:45 – The one question to ask before thinking about February
9:03 – This week’s reflection challenge

If this episode resonated with you and you want more tools, reflections, and support for building a life you actually enjoy without alcohol, visit https://soberandhappy.com/home/ to explore the podcast, resources, and next steps.