#132 - Reconnecting After Years of Conflict, Criticism, and Emotional Withdrawal

When life has hurt us enough times, our hearts learn to protect themselves.

We grow cautious. Controlled. We tell ourselves we’re being “realistic,” when really, we’re just afraid to be hurt again.

In this week’s episode, I talk with Cody, a woman learning how to reconnect with her husband after years of criticism, conflict, and silence. Together, we explore what it truly takes to soften the walls that once kept them each safe, but now keep love out.

Listen to learn:

•How self-protection turns into emotional isolation

•What it means to shift from “negative peace” (avoiding conflict) to real peace (rooted in connection)

•Why awareness of tension is the first step to healing

•How to speak to your partner from vulnerability instead of defense

•Simple phrases that help reopen trust after years of guarding

If your heart has grown cautious, this conversation will remind you: softness isn’t weakness. It’s the quiet courage to love again.

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