131: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People

What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just tired of dating people who can’t show up, this episode will hit home. Sabrina breaks down the signs of real emotional availability, how to check in with your nervous system, and practical tools to stop performing and start connecting. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” — this one’s for you. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

great!

I am working on being more emotionally available and aware.

About a year ago I said (text) something very toxic and hurtful to someone I DO really care about out of fear and because I did not sit in my discomfort and process before reacting.

Yes, I see now what we had could have been a situationship (for five years) but I also see how he was starting to show up and spend more time with me.

I do still speak with this person but nothing close to a true friendship and I want to sincerely apologize to him as I feel like I really hurt him but I do not know for certain. idk it could be in my head. I know this is a conversation that should be had in person so I will wait to see if the opportunity allows and ask his permission if it does