12 | Why Christian Women Still Feel Unsafe (Even In Their Own Faith)

Do you ever catch yourself walking on spiritual eggshells—even in spaces that should feel safe? Maybe you find yourself scanning the room before you speak, wondering if your question will be received well, or if your honesty might be labeled as having "the wrong spirit." Maybe you've learned to adapt, to become whoever the room needs you to be, because authenticity feels dangerous. If you're a Christian woman who loves God deeply but still feels like you're constantly braced for correction or rejection, this episode will help you understand why—and show you the path to the spiritual safety you're longing for. Today we're exploring the profound truth that could heal one of religious trauma's most painful barriers: your hypervigilance wasn't paranoia - it was wisdom protecting you from real spiritual danger. Episode Description If you've been living in spiritual hypervigilance, constantly adapting to survive instead of standing in your truth, this episode will revolutionize how you understand safety in your faith. Today we're healing the devastating "I'm Not Safe" barrier by discovering how to distinguish between God's safe love and the harmful dynamics that taught you to live on guard. Through a personal story of spiritual manipulation disguised as loving guidance, we'll explore how religious trauma teaches us that safety comes from human approval rather than God's unchanging love. You'll learn why your constant vigilance wasn't paranoia—it was wisdom responding to real spiritual danger. Most importantly, you'll discover how to separate God from the people who misrepresented Him, and find the courage to trust your own God-given discernment. This isn't about avoiding all spiritual guidance, but about learning to hear God's voice directly instead of through human interpretation. You'll walk away understanding that questioning isn't rebellion—it's relationship, and that God delights in your authentic heart, not your spiritual performance. Safety isn't found in avoiding all risk, but in the arms of a God who has prepared a future for you with hope. In this episode, you'll discover: → Why your spiritual hypervigilance was actually brilliant wisdom protecting you from real manipulation → The difference between healthy spiritual guidance and controlling authority that uses Christian concepts for manipulation → How to separate God's character from the people who misrepresented Him through fear-based teaching → Practical steps to practice authenticity with God first, then with safe people in your life → The revolutionary truth that questioning deepens relationship with God rather than threatening it Healing Truth You are safe in God's love, and that safety isn't dependent on anyone else's approval or interpretation of His will for your life. God delights in your authentic heart—questions, emotions, and all. You were never meant to live in spiritual fear. You were meant to rest in His perfect love that casts out all fear. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey - a six-month guided experience to learn the difference between God's safe love and harmful spiritual dynamics. Discover how to trust your own God-given discernment while staying deeply connected to your faith. This isn't about losing your relationship with God - it's about finding the safety to be authentic with Him. Details here: TheComingHomeJourney.com About Debra I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who've been taught that spiritual safety comes from human approval rather than God's love. I know this transformation personally - I've learned to distinguish between God's voice and human interpretation - and I've witnessed what happens when women discover they're safe to be authentic: they finally experience the freedom Christ died to give them. Listener Love If this episode helped you understand that your vigilance was wisdom rather than weakness, would you share it with someone who needs this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover they're safe to question, feel, and heal in God's love. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and ...