119: Gray Matter Moment - Radical Acceptance

In this Gray Matter Moment, Ryan takes a thoughtful pause from guest conversations to explore a concept that’s been personally transformative for him: radical acceptance. Sparked by a presentation at Yavapai College’s convocation, he reflects on the psychological roots of the idea, its practical applications in leadership and technology, and how it connects to everyday challenges across higher education.

From acknowledging reality without judgment to understanding the circles of control, influence, and concern, Ryan connects these lessons to AV/IT scenarios like AV over IP, organizational change, and team dynamics. He emphasizes that acceptance is not the same as approval or resignation—it’s the foundation for clarity, resilience, and effective action. Along the way, he shares personal experiences from therapy, insights from Stephen Covey, and connections to mindfulness practice. This episode offers both reflection and practical steps for leaders navigating complex transitions.

Topics Discussed

• Why the AV/IT Amplifier occasionally pauses and the value of Gray Matter Moments
• Convocation at Yavapai College and the theme of navigating change
• The concept of radical acceptance from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
• Acceptance vs. approval: acknowledging truth without resignation
• Examples of resistance in higher ed technology (AV over IP, cloud control)
• Stephen Covey’s circles of control, influence, and concern
• Parallels to the Serenity Prayer and recovery wisdom
• Five skills for practicing radical acceptance in daily life
• The role of mindfulness, breathing, and role-play in emotional regulation
• How radical acceptance expands clarity, influence, and resilience

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Voiceover by Chris Dechter.

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