116 Motives

Today’s word is Motives - and it sends Kimberly and Cara down a delightfully winding neurospicy path. From survival brains and fixed vs. growth mindsets to why being “wrong” in small ways can calm the nervous system, this episode explores what really drives our behavior beneath the surface. They unpack fear, power, language, context, and why motivation often comes from places we don’t consciously choose. Along the way: toddlers driving cars (don’t), soda vs. pop vs. Coke, rom-coms vs. horror films, Star Trek communicators, non-verbal brilliance, emotional intelligence, and the radical idea that communication ≠ intelligence. Thoughtful, funny, and deeply validating, this dialogue invites you to look at your own motives with more curiosity - and a lot less judgment.