#101 - Hilary Jacobs Hendel - Why You’re Anxious, Depressed, Or Numb & How To Finally Feel Better

Hilary Jacobs Hendel breaks down why most of us misunderstand emotions and how that holds us back. She unpacks why anxiety, shame, and guilt often sit on top of deeper feelings like sadness and anger, and how the Change Triangle helps access what’s underneath. We get into how emotions are physiological, not intellectual, and why healing begins by learning to feel, not fix. This is an education in the language of emotion—one most of us never got.

Timestamps:
00:00 Why It's Easy To Ignore Emotions
01:07 Emotional Intelligence vs. Emotional Education
4:49 Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP)
9:25 Hilary's Work Before AEDP
15:02 Emotions Are From The Body, Not The Mind
20:20 The Change Triangle
30:30 The Change Triangle Recalibrates Depression & Anxiety
33:11 Feeling Core Emotions vs. Inhibitory Emotions
37:11 Empowering People With Their Emotions
39:37 Going Into Conversation With Yourself
46:05 Your Imagination Is A Tool
52:03 Forgiveness Blocks Our Emotions
53:28 Reaching Your Open-Hearted Self
57:24 Learn More About Hilary Jacobs Hendel

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