084 | Knowing how to pace yourself is an undervalued skill, especially for introverts | Season 4

January was a hectic month for 3 reasons: 1) My partner moved his gym to a new location, 2) We started the year off with a very sick little boy, 3) I worked on aligning The Exploring Introvert.

Despite needing to clear my schedule for part of the month to care for our kid and to manage logistics at home with the gym move, I made good progress.

The new home page of my website is out (have a look here)

And you can now find The Exploring Introvert on all my social channels.

Although I’m only active on LinkedIn at the moment, I aligned all my socials to make them consistent. Of course, I’ll still be tweaking things here and there (I love to tweak things) the ‘red thread’ is there and I love seeing it all come together!

Despite making good progress under the circumstances, my inner critic did flare up.

Criticizing everything from my parenting choices to my work attitude.

“Shouldn’t you take your kid to the hospital? Why are you even working? You should be here 100% for your child. You’re such a bad mother.”

“Why didn’t you get more done for work this week? Yes, your child is sick but you’re a business owner and you should be getting after it.”

“Look at that post, that person is doing so much better than you. I knew it, you’re never going to make this business work.”

Have you noticed that when you’re especially tired, the inner critic becomes louder?

The inner critic can get downright nasty. Comparing you to others and pointing out all the tiny mistakes that you’re making. Like a bully blasting an annoying song on repeat.

The critic can hold on to old patterns (one of mine is to forgo rest and to give everything that I have, only to run on empty). The critic can suck up the little energy that you have left. It will try to push you to do things that make sense on paper but that typically take you farther away from what you really need. Proper mental rest.

That’s why I believe that knowing how to pace yourself is an undervalued skill, especially for introverts. Learn more in this month’s update.

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00:00 My biggest lesson this month: knowing how to pace yourself is an undervalued skill

01:18 Moving my partner's gym

03:01 Combining family and career

05:42 Further aligning 🧭 The Exploring Introvert

07:38 Building a support network as an entrepreneur

08:54 Learning to pace myself

11:04 “If you only have 40% and you gave 40%, then you gave 100%” - Jim Kwik

11:40 If you’re an introvert with a strong inner critic

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