04: Living as an Enneagram One: Parenting, Leadership, and Overcoming Perfectionism

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In this episode of Why Do I Do What I Do? Exploring the Enneagram, Paul sits down with Sarah Davidson, Executive Pastor of Ministries at Preston Trail Community Church, to unpack the gifts and challenges of being an Enneagram One. Known as the Perfectionist or the Improver, Ones are motivated by a deep desire to do what’s right, live with integrity, and make the world a better place. Sarah shares candidly about how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage, parenting three boys, and leadership of a large church staff. From the high standards and reliability that make her a trusted leader, to the inner critic and critical eye that can sometimes create tension, Sarah opens up about the real-life experience of being a One at work and at home. Together, Paul and Sarah explore: The strengths of a One: integrity, clarity, reliability, and consistency. The shadow side of a One: perfectionism, criticism, and the struggle to rest. How Sarah has learned to pursue excellence over perfection and lean into grace. Practical wisdom for Ones learning to silence the inner critic, embrace rest, and lead with encouragement instead of judgment. Whether you’re an Enneagram One yourself or love someone who is, this conversation offers rich insight into how Ones can move from criticism to compassion, and from perfectionism to peace.