029 Learning from breakups and transitioning to the single life

People will ask me, how do you just go with life’s twists and turns without slowing down? With every turn comes momentum. It pushes you to grow in new ways especially when it comes to relationships and human connection. You can learn from every single relationship you are in. I have been in abusive ones, toxic ones, really strong ones, fun ones, and they have all taught me something different. How can we transition from these hard turns into the single life? 

So in a season of singleness, what is the mindset I take on?

• I am free, I don’t have to ask for permission to do anything. Independence is my favorite word. 
• I get to feel lonely. Trust me, its HARD. As soon as negative thoughts start to creep in you have to sort them. Some of the most common...
  • "What if I stayed with him/her, THEN I could have kids right now and a house and my dream job."
  • "What am I doing wrong, why does no one like me?"
    • Are you loving and respecting yourself the way you want someone to love and care for you? That's step one. Check out this episode all about body image and self-worth
    • Step two, are you looking at a checklist for your man to follow?
  • "Should I just settle?" Nope. 
• I get to be gitty and excited and dream of the relationship I will have in the future when I am ready, when my heart is ready and when he is ready. Maybe that's next week maybe that's in 5 years. Who. Knows. I don’t and I am ok with that.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** by Mark Manson