015: Noticing our Defaults

In this conversation, Jill and Meg unpack the concept of human defaults. They explore how our nervous systems and life experiences shape the patterns we fall back on, especially under stress. Together they examine how awareness, self trust, and curiosity can help us shift from fear based reactions to conscious choices in both life and work.

Key Themes:

• Understanding the nervous system’s role in default behaviors
• Recognizing fear based reactions in leadership and relationships
• The power of awareness and self trust as the opposite of fear
• The spiral staircase of growth and learning the same lessons at deeper levels
• Using pattern interruption and the Deepest Fear Inventory to change subconscious patterns

Quotes:

• “When things get hard, we revert back to our defaults. It makes sense because it takes energy to grow.”
• “Fear drives us back to what feels safe, even if it no longer serves us.”
• “Everything is solvable. Take one step at a time.”
• “You learn the same lessons over and over again, just at higher levels of awareness.”
• “The stuff you don’t deal with goes down to the basement and lifts weights.”

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Resources Mentioned:

• Self Master Program: https://www.profoundwellness.net/self-mastery-program
• Deepest Fear Inventory Exercise:
• Dear God,
• I hate and resent (what I desire)
• I absolutely refuse to have/be (what I desire)
• Because I have a deep fear... (fill in the blank with whatever comes up) 20x
• Dear God - I ask that you remove these fears. I pray only for knowledge of your will for me and the power to carry it out. Thank you
• Then RIP IT UP!!!