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In this episode 19 of UnCeiling You, Natalie Luke, PhD, sits down with Ellen Leikind—author of Poker Woman and creator of the BOLD negotiation system—to unpack the hidden costs of “playing it safe” at work. From poker tables to boardrooms, Ellen shares how understanding power dynamics, owning your voice, and knowing when to fold (or go all in) are essential to advancing your career. If you’ve ever been overlooked for a promotion or felt like office politics were a game you weren’t even invited to play—this conversation is your wake-up call.

🎯 Key Takeaways:

• Why playing not to lose is the most dangerous move of all
• How to recognize when you're already playing the game of office politics
• Why assertiveness is a leadership strength, not a liability
• The power of knowing who holds the cards—and how to build relationships with them
• Ellen’s real-life stories of clients who asked, negotiated, and won
• How to read a room and adapt without losing authenticity
• Why your “win” doesn’t have to be being CEO—but you do need to define it

📚 Resources & Mentions:

• Poker Woman: How to Win in Love, Life, and Business Using the Principles of Poker — Find it on Amazon
• Learn more about Elen’s negotiation course: www.pokerdivas.com

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What if the rules you’ve been told to follow—work hard, be a team player, stay humble—are the very things holding you back?

In this episode, Dr. Anna Kallschmidt unpacks the invisible rulebook of the American workplace—and how it was built without most of us in mind. From class-based communication styles to gendered expectations in interviews, Anna brings decades of research to explain why marginalized professionals—especially women, people of color, and those from working-class or neurodivergent backgrounds—often get left behind, despite their talent.

Dr. Kallschmidt and host Natalie Luke explore how hidden cultural norms shape who is seen as “professional,” why “soft skills” aren’t soft at all, and how leaders can build fairer, smarter systems without compromising on performance.

• The 2 of the 8 hidden rules that impact who gets hired, promoted, or passed over
• Why direct vs. indirect communication can make or break your career
• How interdependence and humility may backfire in white-collar environments
• What it means to blend “I” with “we”—especially as a woman in leadership
• Why “soft skills” are the human edge AI will never replace
• Actionable tips for both professionals and hiring managers to break the bias loop

• Women navigating workplace advancement
• DEI advocates and HR professionals
• First-gen professionals and career changers
• Executives rethinking leadership and hiring bias
• Anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why didn’t I get that promotion?”

🌐 Website: drkallschmidt.com

🔗 LinkedIn, TikTok, Blue Sky, YouTube: @drkallschmidt

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Unspoken rules. Invisible barriers. Exhausting double standards.

In this compelling episode, Dr. Arin N. Reeves joins host Natalie Luke, PhD, to unpack the hidden dynamics that hold women and underrepresented professionals back—especially in leadership. Drawing on decades of research and personal experience, Arin explores how to navigate microaggressions, exclusion, and manipulation without losing your mind— or your career.

If you've ever felt like you're playing by a rulebook no one handed you, this conversation is your guide to owning your power, protecting your energy, and outsmarting the system from the inside.

• The invisible workplace rules that shape career outcomes
• Why emotional labor falls disproportionately on women
• How to respond to microaggressions and subtle exclusion
• The danger of trying to “prove” your value in a toxic environment
• Why intuition is a legitimate form of data
• How to find the real allies (and spot the enablers)
• Arin’s favorite disarming phrase that ends arguments instantly
• What to do when DEI gets stripped away—but bias remains

• Arin’s 10-Question Game Plan to deal with liars, gaslighters, and gatekeepers
• Practical advice on how to amplify other women in meetings
• The power of strategic silence—and the phrase: “You’re right.”
• Building networks that neutralize toxic power

• 📖 Smarter Than a Lie by Dr. Arin N. Reeves
• 📖 In Charge: The Energy Management Guide for Women
• 💻 Learn more at nexions.com

Dr. Arin Reeves is a sociologist, researcher, and author specializing in workplace culture, leadership, and inclusion. She is the President of Nextions, a leadership consulting firm that helps organizations build smarter, more inclusive systems. Arin has worked with Fortune 500 companies, law firms, universities, and nonprofits to support meaningful and measurable change.

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In episode 16, Dr. Natalie Luke speaks with Dr. Patricia Stepp about her experiences with toxic leadership, the importance of resilience, and the pivotal moments that shaped her career. They discuss the dynamics of leadership, the necessity of networking, and the challenges women face in the workplace. Dr. Stepp shares her journey from biomedical research to intellectual property, emphasizing the value of authenticity and the importance of embracing change. The conversation underscores the importance of standing your ground, learning from experiences, and the value of self-trust in navigating career paths.

Key Takeaways:

• Knowing your worth is crucial in the workplace.
• Toxic leadership can have lasting impacts on careers.
• Resilience and self-trust are key to career success.
• Networking is about building genuine connections.
• Leadership dynamics can influence career decisions.
• Being comfortable with discomfort can lead to growth.
• It's essential to discuss workplace challenges.
• Authenticity is vital for long-term success.
• Women face unique challenges in leadership roles.
• Embracing change is crucial for both personal and professional growth.

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"You have to talk about it to fix it."

"Be comfortable with being uncomfortable."

"You need to be willing to learn new things."

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Summary

In this conversation, Natalie Luke and Dr. Sarah Kaplan explore the critical importance of diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) in business. They discuss how companies that prioritize DEI not only enhance their corporate performance but also foster innovation and employee satisfaction. The discussion highlights the risks associated with rolling back DEI initiatives, the impact of privilege and bias in the workplace, and the necessity for organizations to adapt and innovate in a changing environment. They emphasize the need for a mindset shift towards inclusivity and the importance of individual commitment to creating a more equitable workplace.

Takeaways

• Companies in the top quartile for diversity outperform their peers by 9%.
• Ignoring DEI initiatives can lead to financial missteps.
• Privilege and bias are often invisible until faced with adversity.
• Trade-offs in business strategy can lead to missed opportunities.
• Innovation thrives in diverse environments.
• The backlash against DEI initiatives poses risks to corporate performance.
• Employees are increasingly unwilling to work for companies that don't align with their values.
• Sustaining long-term excellence requires continuous innovation and adaptation.
• A learning mindset is essential for personal and organizational growth.
• Patience and persistence are key to achieving meaningful change.

Sound Bites

• "What happens when they cave to external pressures?"
• "Innovation thrives in diversity, and so do careers."
• "Life is short, walk with your feet."

Chapters

• 00:00 Understanding Trade-Offs in Business Strategy
• 08:50 The Authenticity of DEI Initiatives
• 13:43 The Importance of Diverse Perspectives
• 21:59 Sustaining Innovation and Growth
• 29:15 Mindset Shifts for Effective Advocacy
• 32:48 The Business Case for DEI
• 35:01 Navigating Toxic Workplaces and Leadership Challenges

Resources

Connect with Sarah Kaplan at https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahlkaplan/ or https://bsky.app/profile/sarahkaplan.bsky.social

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Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Natalie Luke and Dr. Marilyn A. Clark discuss the evolving landscape for women in leadership, highlighting the barriers that persist despite progress. They explore the importance of radical responsibility, reframing ambition, and the power of imagination in career growth. The discussion emphasizes the need for strategic networking, visibility, and building support systems to navigate challenges and take bold steps towards leadership.

Takeaways

• Women in leadership face new hidden roadblocks despite previous progress.
• The fight for gender equality in leadership is cyclical.
• Ambition should be reframed as a commitment to impact leadership.
• Women need to practice assertiveness without over-apologizing.
• Imagination and strategic risk-taking are essential for career growth.
• Visibility in the workplace is crucial for being considered for leadership roles.
• Building a strong network of sponsors is vital for career advancement.
• Women should focus on aligning their work with high-impact business goals.
• Support systems and networks are essential for women's success in leadership.
• Taking bold steps towards leadership can start with small, strategic actions.

Chapters

00:00 The Current Landscape for Women in Leadership

04:04 Taking Radical Responsibility

06:50 Reframing Ambition and Overcoming Self-Doubt

09:30 Imagination as a Strategic Tool

12:42 Building Support Systems and Networks

14:55 The Importance of Sponsors vs. Mentors

17:45 Taking Bold Steps in Career Growth

20:23 Final Thoughts and Resources

30:47 Dr. Marilyn A. Clark's Blueprint for Success

Reach out to Dr. Marilyn at:

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marilyn-a-clark-ed-d-4837531/
• Email: contact@ccg-solutions.com
• CCG-solutions.com
• iammarilynclark.com

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Summary

In this episode of UnCeiling You, host Dr. Natalie Luke reflects on her journey and the evolution of the podcast. She discusses the internal battles women face, such as self-doubt and imposter syndrome, and how external barriers in the workplace often compound these challenges. With insights from her own experiences and the stories of others, Natalie emphasizes the importance of community, mentorship, and the need for women to support one another in overcoming obstacles. The conversation also touches on the rollback of DEI programs and the hidden rules that can hinder women's career progress. As the podcast looks forward to future seasons, Natalie aims to empower listeners to embrace their ambitions and challenge societal expectations.

Takeaways

• Self-doubt is a common struggle for many women.
• Naming your inner critic can help manage self-doubt.
• Community and mentorship are crucial for personal growth.
• External barriers like DEI rollbacks impact women's careers.
• Hidden workplace rules can create additional challenges.
• Mindset shifts are essential for overcoming obstacles.
• Women should support each other in their journeys.
• It's important to challenge societal expectations.
• Personal growth often involves embracing change and taking risks.

Sound Bites

• "You're not too late; you're right on time."
• "I gave her a name, and her name was Natasha."
• "I want to get a tattoo for the first time."

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In Episode 12, Natalie Luke and Trisha Tyan explore the detrimental effects of hustle culture on health and productivity. They discuss the importance of listening to one's body, advocating for oneself in the workplace, and redefining success in light of personal challenges such as chronic illness. Trisha shares her journey of navigating ambition while managing her health, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and realistic planning. The discussion also highlights the significance of creating inclusive workplaces that accommodate diverse needs and the power of self-advocacy.

Takeaways

• Pushing through exhaustion can lead to worse health outcomes.
• True success is about working smarter, not harder.
• Listening to your body is crucial for maintaining energy.
• Self-advocacy is essential in the workplace.
• Acceptance of new realities can reduce stress.
• Planning around energy levels can enhance productivity.
• Asking for help is not a weakness but a strength.
• Recognizing the hidden costs of hustle culture is vital.
• Creating inclusive workplaces benefits everyone.
• Being kind to yourself is key to long-term success.

Sound Bites

• "Listen to your body."
• "You can ask for help."
• "Be kind to yourself."
• Chapters

• 00:00 Navigating Hustle Culture and Energy Management
• 07:49 Acceptance and Redefining Success
• 09:46 Personal Journeys: Chronic Illness and Career
• 14:10 Mastering Self-Advocacy at Work
• 22:35 The Hidden Costs of Pushing Too Hard
• 25:57 Designing Inclusive Workplaces
• 30:36 Final Thoughts and Resources
• 33:15 New Chapter

• Connect with Trisha Tayan:
• Email: trisha@trishation.com
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trishatayan/

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