You’re Allowed to Disappoint People

How to Set Boundaries, Stop People-Pleasing, and Stay True to Yourself Without Guilt

You’re Allowed to Disappoint People

*How to Set Boundaries, Stop People-Pleasing, and Stay True to Yourself Without Guilt*
**By Oliver Stuart**

You don’t struggle with boundaries because you don’t care.
You struggle because disappointing people feels unsafe.

You say yes when you mean no.
You over-explain simple limits.
You manage other people’s emotions at the expense of your own peace.

And even when you know a boundary is reasonable, guilt shows up immediately.

This book explains why—and shows you how to change it without becoming cold, selfish, or confrontational.

**You’re Allowed to Disappoint People** is written for thoughtful, empathetic people who are tired of people-pleasing but don’t want to lose their kindness in the process. It’s not about cutting people off or forcing confidence. It’s about learning how to stay honest, grounded, and self-respecting—*even when others are uncomfortable.*

Inside this book, you’ll learn:

* Why guilt appears the moment you say no
* How approval became tied to emotional safety
* The difference between kindness and self-erasure
* Why over-explaining weakens your boundaries
* How to let others feel disappointed without fixing it
* How to handle pushback without collapsing or retreating
* What healthy boundaries actually look like in real relationships

This isn’t a book about becoming harder.

It’s a book about becoming clearer.

Clear about what you can give.
Clear about what you can’t.
Clear about the difference between responsibility and over-responsibility.

You are allowed to disappoint people.
You are not required to abandon yourself to keep the peace.

If you’re ready to stop organizing your life around approval and start building relationships that can hold honesty, this book will help you do it—calmly, respectfully, and without guilt being the price.