You Weren't Meant to Be Happy

A Worthy Life Beyond Feeling Good

This is not a path to permanent happiness, but a way out of the exhaustion of chasing it. Living well begins when you stop demanding that you feel good.
What if the problem is not that you are not happy, but that you believe you should be happy all the time?
For years, we have been taught that a worthwhile life should feel good, clear, and steady. That if something makes us uncomfortable, hurts, or weighs heavily, it is a sign we are failing, that we have taken the wrong path, or that we still have not learned “the right lesson.” This silent promise—of permanent happiness—has ended up becoming one of the greatest sources of guilt, exhaustion, and inner disconnection.
This is not a call to give up joy or settle for a gray life. It is a proposal for something more honest: to stop demanding that human experience fit an impossible emotional ideal. Real life includes enthusiasm and weariness, meaning and doubt, moments of peace and phases of confusion. And none of that means you are living poorly.
Throughout these pages, the idea of happiness as an obligation is questioned, and personal responsibility is redefined: not as controlling what you feel, but as how you treat yourself when you do not feel well. Instead of chasing ideal states, you are invited to build a kinder, more realistic, and sustainable relationship with your own experience.
It does not promise instant transformations or correct emotions. It offers relief. Permission. And a different way of being alive: less shiny, perhaps, but far more livable.