In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we return with Roxanna Johnson for a second recording as she explains how spouses are changed by the “dance” of addiction, why both partners have parallel recovery paths, and how hope can emerge over years of work. She teaches surrender as releasing control to God, addressing fear and hypervigilance, and emphasizes grieving, emotional regulation, movement with breath, journaling, and a step-by-step surrender practice, urging those struggling with addiction to “see” and validate their spouse’s pain while seeking the God who knows their name. Roxanna is the author of Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction, The Journey of a Spouse.

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00:00 Welcome and Check In
04:35 Spouses Need to Heal Too
08:07 The Recovery Dance
13:15 Surrendering Control
17:29 Fear and Trusting God
22:00 How to Support Your Wife
27:26 Grief and Healing
30:57 Six Steps to Surrender
38:14 God Knows Your Name
43:33 Closing and Resources

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Nathan Maxwell returns after a lost recording to share updated perspectives on recovery and marriage. He recounts early exposure to pornography in fourth grade, his parents’ divorce, his half-brother’s suicide, and how shame and suppressed grief fueled compulsive porn use and a growing need for validation from various sexual partners. Nathan describes how religious culture, lack of sex education, and scrupulosity shaped a belief that God hated him, contributing to misery and suicidal ideation. Recovery began when a church member introduced him to Unashamed, Unafraid, 12-step meetings, and boot camp. Nathan now lives with a changed view of God as a loving Father, and ongoing growth through setbacks and sobriety since November 2024.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Guidebook Update

01:32 Nathan Returns

03:24 Roots of Addiction

17:14 Bootcamp Breakthrough

19:01 Learning Gods Love

26:33 Golden Nuggets of Recovery