They Don't See It... but You Do

How to Plant a Seed: Gently Naming Abuse

De: Tracy Malone

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

“How do I help someone I love who’s in a controlling relationship?”
“What do I say when they don’t see the red flags?”
“How do I talk to them without pushing them away?”

If you’ve ever asked these questions, you’re not alone. Talking about abuse is never easy and it’s often filled with emotional landmines. The wrong approach, even with the best intentions, can unintentionally push them closer to the abuser instead of opening their eyes.

When someone you love shares confusing, painful, or abusive experiences, your instincts scream to protect them. But rushing in with warnings or labels can backfire, triggering shame, denial, or even deeper entanglement with the abuser.
They Don’t See It… But You Do is a compassionate, practical guide for friends, parents, siblings, and loved ones who see someone they care about being manipulated, isolated, or emotionally abused but don’t know how to bring it up without pushing them away.
Real-World Red Flags You May Hear:

• “He tracks my location to make sure I’m safe.”
• “I feel like I can’t do anything right.”
• “My spouse says I’m a bad parent.”
• “We don’t talk to my family anymore it’s better that way.”
• “I make the money, but I’m not allowed to spend any of it.”
• “I feel like I’m failing all the time.”
• “She gets mad when I want time to myself or with friends.”

If these statements sound familiar, your loved one may be in a controlling or abusive relationship and this book will help you support them without judgment, confrontation, or pressure.
In This Book, You’ll Learn:

• Why people in toxic relationships often can’t see the abuse
• How to spot the signs of narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, coercive control, and emotional manipulation
• What not to say and how to avoid triggering defensiveness or shame
• When to speak up, and when to step back
• Over 50 “seed starter” conversation prompts for different situations
• How to respond when they defend the abuser or minimize the harm
• How to stay present and grounded without sacrificing your own emotional well-being

You don’t have to rescue them.
You don’t have to label their relationship.
You just have to be the steady voice they remember when the fog begins to lift.

They Don’t See It… But You Do is your roadmap for planting seeds of awareness with empathy, patience, and the power of gentle truth.