The Autistic Friendship Workbook

Scripts, Boundaries, and Energy Tools for Autistic Adults to Build Authentic Friendships Without Masking

You’ve rebuilt your inner world. Now it’s time to build your circle.

For many autistic adults, the hardest part of life after diagnosis isn’t understanding who you are—it’s finding genuine connection. You may have learned to manage sensory overload and rebuilt your routines to fit your neurology, yet still feel lonely or misunderstood.

Most social-skills guides were written from a neurotypical perspective. The Autistic Friendship Workbook changes that.

As the third book in the Autistic Life Design Series, this neurodiversity-affirming and trauma-informed toolkit helps autistic and otherwise neurodivergent adults build friendships that are safe, mutual, and energizing—without masking who they are.


WHY THIS WORKBOOK IS DIFFERENT?

Most autism books stop at awareness—this one goes further.
You’ll learn concrete, research-based strategies that honor your neurotype and energy limits while showing you how to connect on your own terms.

INSIDE, YOU WILL FIND:

● A six-part roadmap: Foundations, Finding Your People, Building & Maintaining, Boundaries & Safety, Rupture & Repair, Sustain & Grow

● Practical tools like the Friendship Snapshot, Social Energy Map, Masking Habit Finder, and Connection Ladder

● Scripts and templates for clear communication, boundary setting, and repair after conflict

● Interest-based connection methods rooted in monotropism—friendship through shared passions, not small talk

● Sensory-safe social design tips to help you meet, connect, and recharge without burnout

● Repair rituals and conflict tools for maintaining friendships that feel safe and reciprocal

and much more.

KEY BENEFITS:

● Build authentic, sustainable friendships without masking or people-pleasing

● Learn to communicate directly and kindly, reducing anxiety and misunderstanding

● Redefine what “good friendship” means for your neurotype

● Move past fawning, guilt, and social exhaustion into balanced, reciprocal relationships

● Design a sensory-friendly social life that replenishes you instead of draining you


WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR?

This book is for autistic and neurodivergent adults ready to experience genuine, sustainable connection. It’s also a powerful resource for therapists, coaches, and allies seeking tools to support autistic clients in building safe and lasting relationships.

If you’ve ever thought, “I want connection, but I can’t keep pretending,” this guide will help you find the friendships that finally feel like home.

This isn’t about learning to fit in.
It’s about finding where you truly belong.