Stop Being So Damn Available

How to Set Boundaries, Say No Without Feeling Guilty, Protect Your Time and Finally Experience Inner Peace

De: Trilby Grundy

Narrado por: Sabrina Pellerito

If you’re exhausted from being everyone’s Plan A, emotional support hotline, unpaid therapist, and the one who always “just gets it done”—this book is for you.

Stop Being So Damn Available is a smart, funny, gloriously rebellious self-help guide for women (and recovering people-pleasers) done living on everyone else’s terms. It’s not about becoming cold—it’s about becoming clear. Not about disappearing—but choosing when to show up, and when to sit down.

Inside, you’ll learn how to stop people pleasing:

• Set clear, guilt-free boundaries—and stick to them.
• Say no with confidence—without spiraling into apologies.
• Break the cycle of burnout—stop being everyone's emotional first responder.
• Ditch the guilt that keeps you overcommitted.
• Stop second-guessing your decisions—gain clarity and calm.
• Feel respected, not taken for granted—because when you value your time, others do too.
• Take up space without apology—make confidence your new default.

Plus, uncover powerful tools: 1 boundary that transforms all your relationships. 2 guilt-shattering phrases for when people push back. 3 mindset shifts to reclaim your space and stop apologizing for existing.

Whether you're deep in burnout, navigating friendship fatigue, managing family demands, or simply ready to reclaim your peace, this book is your permission slip to stop pleasing everyone else and start pleasing yourself.

This isn’t just another self-help cliché—it’s your reset guide: funny, honest, practical, and real. You don’t need another planner, productivity hack, or gold star for exhaustion. You need boundaries. With backbone.

Say it with me: “I’m not available.” And mean it.

©2025 Trilby Grundy (P)2025 Trilby Grundy

Start setting boundries

This book helped me to start setting boundaries without feeling like I am constantly saying no. The guidance and tips that it provided made it feel natural after a few tries. I am already starting to feel empowered, more confident and not as stressed.

When niceness hides insecurity

The real knowledge drop hits when she explains how being overly available isn't kindness.. it's insecurity in disguise.. woah! That line hits like a truth bomb. It's the kind of thing that makes yah stop mid scroll and rethink every "sure, no prob" text I have ever sent when I actually tired or annoyed. It's a callout and a wake up all in one!

No More Wasted Time or Energy

I'm a nice person, I like being nice to others, but sometimes I'm not very nice to myself. I stretch myself too thin and find myself burnt out, stressed and tired all the time. This book really spoke to me and explained how I can keep being nice, but not so available, learn to say no and set boundaries that actually help me make more of an impact in my life and others'!

great guide

If you're a woman who’s exhausted from overgiving, always being available, and feeling like you’re last on your own list—read this book. It’s empowering, boundary-boosting, and a much-needed reset for your soul. The author truly understands what it’s like to be the go-to person and offers clear, doable steps to finally reclaim your time, energy, and peace.

Must-Listen

This audiobook spoke directly to my heart. I loved how the author mixes humor with truth it felt like getting advice from a wise and funny friend. It helped me realize that saying "no" doesn’t make me a bad person, just a stronger one.

Perfect For Me

First off i really love the narrators voice and tone. She got me locked into listening to the book right away. It feels like its a family member talking to you and giving life wisdom. When it comes to the content of the book i really enjoyed it because i do need to work on some boundaries with people in my life. Not having them makes you a slave to pleasing everyone else but yourself. And in the end you will be the only one miserable.

This awakened me!

This book gave me just the wake up call that I needed. I came to realize that I was just someone who always said yes, took on too much and as a result didn’t have the time I needed for myself.

Highly recommended!

The book helped me to rethink boundaries without guilt and finally say no without an anxiety.