Sober Through Separation

A Diary of Divorce, Desire, and Rebirth. When my marriage ended, I didn’t drink. I wrote.

I’ve been sober for eleven years in Alcoholics Anonymous—and I was married for that entire time. This book begins the week I moved out of the home I’d shared with my wife and kids for seven years, just two blocks away, starting over at forty. I was still going to AA meetings, still showing up as a father, still staying sober—but now doing it all alone for the first time.

What you’ll read here is my diary from those first raw weeks of separation: yoga classes, AA meetings, late-night reflections, awkward dating attempts, and quiet nights in my new house learning how to sleep again. It’s not just a story about divorce—it’s about staying grounded when everything you thought was permanent disappears.

I write openly about desire, faith, loneliness, and the strange peace that comes from letting go. You’ll find reflections on what it means to love without attachment, to grieve with grace, and to find intimacy again after years of emotional distance.

This isn’t a “how-to” guide—it’s an unfiltered account of recovery in real life: the daily practice of staying sober not just from alcohol, but from control, fantasy, and digital illusions.

If you’ve ever faced heartbreak, spiritual awakening, or the challenge of starting over, Sober Through Separation will meet you there—with honesty, humility, and hope that love and peace can return, one day at a time.