Isn't Where You Have to Play It from Punishment Enough?

De: Dr. Joseph Parent

Narrado por: Dr. Joseph Parent

We’re so hard on ourselves. We tie our self-worth to the results of our actions, to how well we hit a golf shot or what score we make on a hole. When things go badly, we start to doubt our basic goodness as human beings. We start to say things like “What’s wrong with me?” We usually can’t accept making a mistake, despite the fact that we know everybody makes them. Here’s an exercise that illustrates this point. I ask everyone to imagine that a good friend has just hit a bad shot. Then I ask them to put their friend’s name in the sentence: “That’s okay, [friend’s name], everybody makes mistakes.” Imagining that we are each saying it to our friend in an actual situation, we all say the sentence together. We do it a few times to get the feeling. Then we discuss how the exercise felt. In general, people say they feel good about being able to give support and comfort to a friend.

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