Is Separation Biblical?

MR

De: Juan Perez

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Life is full of choices. We make many by choosing to do them, and many others by making no choice at all and letting them just happen to us. During this separation you actually have three immediate choices.

1. Keep reacting and responding to things the way you have always done, and keep getting the same results you always have.
2. Just give up and get the divorce, and hope you don't make the same mistake with the next person you marry.
3. Seek God's leading and obey Him as he works at healing your wounded relationship (no matter how long it takes).

This book will concentrate on the last choice.

By the time a married woman who is separated from her husband goes to see a counselor, the problem has reached a point that she might even admit that she does not know what she is doing. This will probably be the counselor’s “best friend,” in helping the woman. People, who are desperate or close to that, usually are willing to do more (or at least different things) than they may have tried before.
Your counselor will want to take a few steps with you which should help you work at healing your marriage.

1. He (or she) should take time to listen to you, before trying to figure out what actually transpired between you and your spouse.
2. As well, he should listen to what you tell him the problem really is, and figure out what part you played in damaging your relationship.
3. You and your counselor should always keep in mind, that “it takes two to make a marriage work, and it takes two to destroy it.” Don’t lose sight of this principle, it will help you to better understand what must happen to try and salvage the marriage.
4. All through the counseling process your job, and your counselor’s job, will be twofold:

• To help you figure out what options are available, and to understand what ramifications and consequences can result from those choices.
• To identify your own actions and choices and how they have directly affected the problem at hand.