Intimacy

A Field Guide to Finding Connection and Feeling Your Deep Desires

De: Ita O'Brien

What is desire? What is attachment? What is chemistry? What is intimacy?

A groundbreaking exploration of sex, love, partnership, and the path to forging a deeper connection to ourselves and others from the pioneering intimacy coordinator behind Normal People

“A vital contribution to our understanding of intimacy both on screen and in life.”—from the Foreword by Gillian Anderson

As Intimacy Coordinator, Ita O’Brien has choreographed some of the most passionate and vulnerable intimate scenes onscreen. From Normal People to Sex Education to I May Destroy You, and in so many more productions, she has also made these scenes safer, more joyful and more empowering to perform in. No one knows intimacy, the power of true connection, better than her.

So, what can her work teach us about our own relationships, both with ourselves and others? How can we use her tools to discover what it is that we truly want in our intimate lives? And how can all of this create environments in which intimacy can take seed, grow and even thrive?

Combining embodied wisdom, behind-the-scenes stories and exercises for connection, Intimacy offers us a field guide to discovering our desires, communicating our needs, and cultivating truly intimate relationships at every stage of our lives.

©2026 Ita O'Brien (P)2026 Random House Audio