Hey girl,

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jennie Young, professor of rhetoric and author of Burn the Haystack, for a conversation that is going to completely change the way you think about dating apps and the men on them. We talk about recognizing toxic communication patterns early, why words matter just as much as actions, and how to protect yourself from the jump so you can actually enjoy the process.

Dr. Jennie breaks down her signature method, which flips the whole dating mindset on its head. Instead of searching for "the one," your only job is to rule men out fast, efficiently, and without guilt. The needle will reveal itself. This episode is about reclaiming your time, trusting your gut, and dating with strategy instead of hope.

BIO:
Jennie Young, PhD, is the creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method and a professor of writing and rhetoric at the University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She publishes work in humor, feminism, applied rhetoric, dating dynamics, and education. Her writing can be seen in McSweeney’s, Ms. magazine, The Independent, Huffpost, Inside Higher Ed, and elsewhere. Also, the author of a textbook that applies critical discourse analysis to contemporary high school culture, Young focuses on public scholarship, making academic content accessible for everyone.

Resources Mentioned:

Burn The Haystack Book | Instagram | Jennie Young

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3. ​Check out the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast- With more than 100 episodes, you can binge and learn so much with my podcast. Check out the latest episode here.
   
   

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Coach Anwar

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Hey girl,

In this solo episode, I break down why so many women struggle with banter in dating and what is really underneath that discomfort. We talk about common fears women have when trying to be playful with men, especially the worry about being misunderstood, coming off the wrong way, or not knowing what to say. I also share how banter can actually be one of the most powerful tools for evaluating chemistry and keeping dating light, fun, and engaging.

But the deeper conversation is about something bigger than humor. Many women have been socialized to be pleasing, agreeable, and accommodating, especially toward men. Banter challenges that conditioning. In this episode, I explore how learning to be a little more “displeasing” in dating can actually be empowering. When used with warmth and authenticity, banter becomes a way to set boundaries, test compatibility, and step fully into your power as the chooser in your dating life.

Here are 3 ways I can help you:

1. ​Book A Call With Me - I've been getting A LOT of DM and email requests to chat with me and answer specific questions about love, dating, relationships, and men, so I'm opening back up my limited calendar for a few calls. So book a time with me here!
2. Join the Get Your Guy Club- Wanna have Dating Support for a year to help you get your guy, but at your own pace. You can get access to my 2 weekly group calls, my private Facebook group, Monthly 1-on-1 calls, and my online course with 40+ hours of content for just monthly payments of $350…
3. ​Check out the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast- With more than 100 episodes, you can binge and learn so much with my podcast. Check out the latest episode here.
   
   
   

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Sincerely,

Coach Anwar

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Hey girl,

In this episode, I sit down with Les Alfred for a powerful conversation about evolution, identity, and what it really takes to reinvent yourself publicly. We talk about her transition from Balanced Black Girl to She’s So Lucky, what sparked the rebrand, and how she navigated the emotional and strategic layers of stepping into a new era.

Les opens up about handling criticism, staying optimistic in the face of online noise, and protecting her vision while expanding it. This episode is about growth, courage, and giving yourself permission to outgrow old versions of yourself — plus a glimpse into who she’s becoming and the energy she’s claiming for 2026.

BIO:

Les Alfred is a media entrepreneur and host of the NAACP Image Award-nominated podcast, She’s So Lucky (Dear Media). Known for millions of downloads and a keen eye for cultural impact, Les is building a women-centered media company to amplify underrepresented voices. Her work seamlessly blends content and culture to elevate, empower, and entertain.

Stay connected with Les and her latest projects by following her on all social platforms!

TikTok | Instagram | YouTube | She's So Lucky | Apple Podcast

Here are 3 ways I can help you:

1. ​Book A Call with Me - Book a time with me here!
2. Join the Get Your Guy Club- Wanna have Dating Support for a year to help you get your guy, but at your own pace. You can get access to my 2 weekly group calls, my private Facebook group, Monthly 1-on-1 calls, and my online course with 40+ hours of content for just monthly payments of $350…
3. ​Check out the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast- With more than 100 episodes, you can binge and learn so much with my podcast. Check out the latest episode here.

Sincerely,

Coach Anwar

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Join my Get Your Guy Club

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