From Him, Not Them

A Young Woman's Guide to Relying on God for Validation, Identity, and Guidance

De: Tracy Harper

Narrado por: Tracy Harper

Ever feel like everyone else got the map for life, but you’re still trying to find the right turn?

We all want direction—someone to show us where to go and who we're truly meant to be. But when we rely on people, feelings, or success for guidance, we end up more confused and exhausted than before.

I know what it’s like to search for meaning and worth in all the wrong places. After a breakup left me questioning my value, I chased identity through achievements, approval, and appearance, until it led me into an eating disorder.

I’m not the only one. For over twenty years, I’ve mentored young women wrestling with the same questions: Where do I belong? Who am I, really? Is my identity based on what others think or who God says I am?

We search for meaning, worth, and direction in grades, sports, relationships, or social media—none meet our deepest needs. What if we’ve been looking in the wrong place all along?

From Him, Not Them: A Young Woman's Guide to Relying on God for Validation, Identity, and Guidance is a Christ-centered roadmap for young women navigating the pressure to prove themselves. You'll hear honest stories from girls who’ve struggled with insecurity, people-pleasing, anxiety, and self-doubt—and found a better way forward. You’ll discover:

• How to stop hustling for approval
• Why feelings make a terrible GPS
• The cost of stressing over solutions
• Why self-sufficiency wears you out
• The danger of flirting with spiritual darkness
• How to walk in step with the Spirit

If you're looking for Christian guidance, help with identity in Christ, or a tool to encourage teen and college girls or young adult women in their faith, this book offers truth, grace, and spiritual direction.

You don’t have to keep looking outside your relationship with God for what He longs to give you. True security comes from Him, not them.

©2025 Tracy Harper (P)2025 Tracy Harper

Stepping stone to overcoming past trauma and understanding God’s love

I heard about this book on a podcast I randomly ran across, and after listening to the free intro I felt like this would be a great resource. I’m well past my teen /young adult years, but this book brought up nearly every struggle I have dealt with. It’s helped me realize I am not alone, and God does see me. It’s really helping me to get past some of the trauma, validity/abandonment/etc issues I have dealt with my entire life. Of course it does this by relating it to our relationship with God, and that helps me more than just hearing someone speak about their own struggles and how they got over it themselves. I tried for 20 years to “get over it myself” and since listening to this book, and beginning to understand my relationship with God and impact of Jesus, I’ve felt more relief. This is the stepping stone I greatly needed. Thank you for this