Fight Right

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

De: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John Gottman PhD

Narrado por: Roy Worley, Kiiri Sandy

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES

Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.

“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.

Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.

Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

©2024 Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD (P)2024 Random House Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

“Conflict is inevitable in any relationship—the trick is knowing how to handle it. Difficulty navigating conflict is one of the most common reasons that couples seek help from books and professionals. They're looking for guidance, but there is surprisingly little practical, accessible information out there. So who better than John and Julie Gottman to give couples the important tools they need? This book will be an indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the “Dear Therapists” podcast

"Couples need skills to fight better, and FIGHT RIGHT is the book that all couples will want to read. Dr. John and Julie Gottman have crafted a masterful guide about the importance of fighting and the skills needed to grow from having necessary disputes. The Gottmans have spent years studying and teaching couples, and in FIGHT RIGHT, they are teaching couples how to do it right."—Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

“In a relationship, your goal is to help your partner find their purpose. John and Julie Gottman, with their decades of experience working intimately with couples, know that the road to finding your purpose and fulfilling your dreams is often through conflict. If we don’t learn how to do conflict well, we’re going to be stuck, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Couples today really need clear, compassionate, and science-based guidance in this arena, and as the world’s leading love experts, the Gottmans are the trusted voice to guide them.”—Jay Shetty, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk

No PDF's come with the book!

While the book was good and informative, other books come with the PDF's to download. This did not. So now I have to purchase the book in print too, to get the rest of the information. Bummer! Just buy the book!

50 years of Psychology Couple’s Research

This book is a MUST for every couple in the World!!!

A true milestone in couples psychology backed by 50 years of ongoing research.

Fight Rught

Beneficial to anyone with an open mind.
Well documented, well laied-out, and well read.
The narrative goes between a female voice and a male voice, leaving the listener open to multiple perspectives.

Everyone needs this

This book changed my marriage for the better. I will definitely listen again and continue to use it as the main tool in my relationship tool belt.

So insightful

I love this scientific approach to love and conflict, the examples used throughout the book were relatable and it provided so many helpful insights and tools to apply that were clear.
Hey, is not gonna fix all your relationship problems, you actually have to apply the learnings and be with a partner that wants to do the same, so I do recommend listening together if possible and have sessions to apply the exercises. But its a great place to start and revisit constantly!

Re-learning that you’re on the same team

This book was super helpful in showing how even thru every fighting style and what feels like gridlocked fights, there can be a way to reconnect not just with some vague hope but with real scientifically test methods that the authors walk you thru.

Best book about couples ever written!

MUST READ!!! loved every part of it! for couples but also any other relationship. highly recommend it.

Helpful

I enjoyed the book so much that I decided to order the book to have in person.

Everyone needs this book

I will likely get the hard copy but enjoyed listening to this and the stories. It’s good to know that even the leading couple on conflict had their own conflicts! I’m excited to utilize the steps outlined for repairs.

worth it

such an insightful book. would highly recommend to anyone trying improve themselves or trying to improve their communication skills in general