Death Becomes Us

De: Pamela Skjolsvik

Narrado por: Lisaun Whittingham

Almost everyone with a pulse fears death, but not everyone fears life. With crippling social anxiety, I feared both. But after an accidental call to a funeral home during my mid-life crisis trip to grad school, I reluctantly embarked on a journey to explore professions that dealt with death in order to come to terms with my own mortality.

The result of this quirky trip is Death Becomes Us, a humorous memoir about what happens when a middle-aged, anxiety-filled, life-avoider attempts to investigate the last taboo of American culture. And lives to tell the tale.

©2015 Pamela Skjolsvik (P)2018 Pamela Skjolsvik

Engaging, addictive, inspiring, and relateable

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would recommend this book to friends, family, anyone who is curious about death, afraid of it, or is passionate about it. This book offers many different perspectives on death and grief as well as the author's journey of fighting through social anxiety, aging, facing mortality, parenting, love and loss.

What other book might you compare Death Becomes Us to and why?

Death is a subject that makes many people uncomfortable. Death Becomes Us stands on its own. There are elements that could be compared to Smoke Gets in your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty and The Chick and the Dead. All three books are a personal narrative of their journey in the death world with elements of comedy. These books, however, are written by Death professionals. Death Becomes Us offers the perspective of your average person who lives with fears that many in American society have.

Which scene was your favorite?

I really enjoyed each scene/chapter. One part that stood out was her story on how the book came to fruition. One phone call changed the course of her life forever. That is something that hit me hard and I think anyone who reads/listens to this book can relate to that. I feel like every person has had a phone call or have met someone that did the same.

I am known as a crazy cat person and when Pamela mentioned cats, my heart was touched. She speaks about her 20 year old black cat Spooky. I've been lucky to be blessed with two black cats. Coincidentally, one of them is named Spooky. My first cat Patches died unexpectedly at 18 years old. After him, I got a kitten named Xena and she died unexpectedly of a rare kitten disease a few months after I got her. I then got Ninja and Spooky, and rescued a feral kitten a few months after I got the boys. Not only does Pamela have compassion and empathy for people, but cats and dogs too. She shares how attached she was to spooky and the difficulty with his passing. She also discusses how she adopted a kitten from the humane society and rescued a prison cat to help her friend. This made my heart sad and happy. I thought of my own experiences with losing my feline friends and rescuing the ones I have now. This really warmed my heart.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I am not an emotional person but this book sparked many emotions. Throughout the book, I found myself laughing wherever I was listening to it. On Easter, my family sat through and listened to the rest of it. There were times where my eyes welled up with tears when the author brings up the death of a young child and the process the family went through, step by step. My wife and I laughed when the author ended up in anxiety inducing situations and she addressed her thought process during those times. My wife and I live with anxiety issues and we laughed because we could relate to what she was dealing with.

Any additional comments?

The author Pamela is someone that everyone I think can relate to in some aspect. She has compassion and love for all walks of life whether it be a prison cat or an intimidating EMT. Many of us are afraid of death to some degree. Pamela provides an honest journey through those fears. The book is more than exploring people who work with death. The book is a trans-formative hike through facing fears, coping with loss, meeting new friends, the ethical conflicts of the death penalty, rescuing kitties, battling nicotine addiction, and so much more. The book addresses many hard to answer questions. How do you cope with death? How do you educate your children about death/grief? What types of grief are valid? What about my own mortality?

My wife and I are very death positive and have become friends with death in a way. While we were listening to the book in the kitchen, our son kept finding excuses to walk away from his video games so that he could sit and listen. This book may not be appropriate for a 9 year old as there is some subject matter that may be difficult for them but my stepson loved it. His face showed excitement as he made connections to what my wife and I talk about and what the author was saying.

This was the best book I've read in a while. It was refreshing to step out my usual true crime/death industry collection. I absolutely recommend it to anyone. The voice actor seems to pause a bit excessively in the beginning but as the book progresses, so does she. The voice actor does an amazing job and her voice is very pleasant to listen to. Her tone worked perfectly with the story.

This book created a book high that I am still riding. I'm sad it's over. I hope anyone that reads this book experiences the same joys that my family and I did.

Surprisingly Humorous

I picked up this book because I too deal with death in my daily life; though my profession was not covered in this book. (Sequel?) I am aware that when dealing with death on a regular basis that at some point humor is almost a given. The heaviness that relates to the topic itself for most people eventually requires an outlet. I was pleasantly surprised to find is that Ms. Skjolsvik included humor in her writing as effortlessly as she did for someone who feared death and living as much as she did.

This book had me hooked right from the beginning. The wrong number scene had me laughing out loud and the ongoing saga of not wanting to face the death of a child had me tearing up. Ms. Skjolsvik did an excellent job exploring that manners of death and how people deal with it both before and after the event.

Ms. Whittingham also did a great job with the narration. Frequently while reading this book I had to remind myself that it was not the author herself speaking. Ms. Whittingham made it sound so natural and as though she herself had been in each of those situations.

I certainly recommend this book for those who want a real reflection of death and how different professions and types of people handle the inevitable.

I was provided with a free copy of this audio book for my honest review. The views expressed here are entirely my own.

Death Becomes Entertaining

What made the experience of listening to Death Becomes Us the most enjoyable?

I didn't know what to expect when I started Death Becomes Us, which may be partially why I enjoyed it so much. The author's ability to make a tough subject approachable and at times funny made for an entertaining and thoughtful exploration of a subject I've never really considered. She spends the narrative exploring how death affects her (and us) on a personal, emotional level rather than the gruesome side of what happens to us after we depart. The narrator was easy to listen to and brought Pamela's story - which is peppered with a self-deprecating wit - to life.

Realistic look at life and death

This was quite a good look at the many aspects of death. I enjoyed traveling along listening to the interviews with all the people who have an involvement with death. In addition, the author shares her personal life and experiences along the way so we feel like we are with her learning as we go. I enjoyed listening to this and recommend it to everyone. I feel it was well worth my time to get a better understanding of all the different facets of death from so many standpoints. I don't think a lot of us have actually thought about all the different people who regularly deal with death. Also, the narration was perfect. I was voluntarily provided this review copy audiobook at no charge by the author, publisher and/or narrator.

Excellent transitions. Talented story teller.

I could not put this book down. I was drawn to the courageous emotional depths the author was able to eloquently articulate. I experienced feelings I didn't know existed.