Careful Selection

Standards to Be and Choose a Good Friend

De: Jonathan Frejuste

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

In life, you don't get to choose whether you get hurt, but you do have a say in who hurts you. Every close and intimate relationship will have its fair share of hurt, anger, sadness, and fear. Oftentimes, there are elephants in the relationship. Without acknowledging the elephants, they get bigger and cause relational discomfort and turmoil. That being said, we should set standards for the people we have in our lives and also the kind of people we want to become for our friends and our communities as we continue on the journey to honoring our calling.

Unfortunately, most people have never learned the tools needed to find good friends and have never learned how to be good friends who protect one another’s integrity. Hoping someone can meet your needs and trusting their capacity to do so are 2 different things.

For any relationship to be healthy, there has to be safety and trust which is built in moments. Trust is not something you can do or produce. Trust is the fruit of a relationship where you know you’re loved. The standard for being and choosing a friend has been broken down in this guide. I wish you well!


Jonathan Frejuste is an author and the creator ofTheBridge330, a mentoring program whose mission is to provide quality mentoring tools and resources to underserved, under-resourced, and vulnerable communities in ways that support sustained social change, a restoration of hope, and an avenue to emotional health. You can learn more about his work at www.thebridge330.com.