7 Traits of Effective Parenting

For the sentinel dad, 'hoping for the best' is not a strategy. To be a Durable Dad, you need an intentional framework. You need to know which character traits you are actually installing into the hearts of your children and which ones you are modeling in your own life. You need to move from a 'survival' mindset to a 'strategic' one. Our guest joins us remotely to give you that framework. Dr. Daniel Huerta, is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family. Dr. Huerta is the author of 7 Traits of Effective Parenting, a book that takes decades of clinical experience and biblical wisdom and distills it into a tactical 'Operating System' for the home. He’s here to show us how these seven specific traits act as the 'Gears' that keep a family moving forward, even when the terrain gets rough.To find the assessment as well as other parenting resources mentioned in this episode, visit: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallengeCreate your podcast today! #madeonzencastrhttps://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge00:05.18Jonathan GuerreroMost of us wouldn't try to run a business, build a house, or manage a high stakes project without clear operate without a clear operating system. We want metrics, we want a blueprint, and we want to know that the gears are actually turning in the right direction.00:21.53Jonathan GuerreroYet, when it comes to the most important leadership role that we will ever hold, which is being a father, many of us are just winging it. We react to the crisis of the day and we hope for the best.00:34.14Jonathan GuerreroAnd we wonder why the culture in our home feels chaotic. For the Sentinel, hoping for the best is not a strategy. To be a durable dad, you need an internal framework and an intentional framework. You need to know which character traits you are actually instilling in the hearts of your children and which ones you're modeling in your own life. You need to move from survival mindset to a strategic one. And my guest is joining us remotely to help us find that framework in just a moment. So don't go anywhere.01:49.80Jonathan GuerreroGreetings, everyone. Thank you so much for joining me. My son and co-host is on a trip, so it's just me behind the mic today. Today, however, I am joined remotely by Dr. Daniel Huerta, the vice president of parenting and youth at Focus on the Family.02:04.54Jonathan GuerreroDr. Huerta is the author of Seven Traits of Effective Parenting, a book that takes decades of clinical experience and biblical wisdom and distills it into a tactical operating system for the home. He's here to show us how these seven specific traits act as the gears that keep the family moving forward, even when the terrain gets rough.02:26.13Jonathan GuerreroDr. Huerta, welcome to the Fatherhood Challenge.02:28.82Dr. Danny Huertayeah Jonathan, so excited to be with you. Thanks for the invitation. i'm honored to be with you.02:33.49Jonathan GuerreroAll right, we got to have a little bit of fun. What's your favorite dad joke?02:35.74Dr. Danny HuertaYes. Well, you know, we have this magazine called Clubhouse Magazine for kids ages nine to 12, and we put some fantastic dad jokes. And one of the most recent ones that I loved was this one. Why do you never see a spy out in the rain?02:51.22Dr. Danny HuertaBecause they're always undercover.02:51.48Jonathan GuerreroWhy do you?02:54.10Jonathan Guerreroah02:54.58Dr. Danny Huertanot That's a good one. Here's one more. One more. One more. Where do sick ships go?02:58.94Jonathan GuerreroLove it.03:02.14Jonathan GuerreroSay that again.03:02.19Dr. Danny HuertaIt's where do sick ships go?03:06.58Jonathan Guerreroi don't know.03:07.70Dr. Danny Huertayeah to the dock. And well there you go. death03:16.25Dr. Danny HuertaThose are solid, man. Yes.03:18.36Jonathan GuerreroAbsolutely. That was a good one. All right. Well, Dr. Huerta, there ah has to be some sort of a personal reason and story how you got into your role at Focus on the Family. Why families? Why why working with families?03:36.60Dr. Danny Huertayeah i it's interesting ah Yeah, it's an interesting story. i was in i was actually going to be an international business major, and I found out that that was just really a way to try to get money from people instead of really truly serving them. You can serve them in business, but at that point, I was feeling more and more called to truly coming alongside people. families and I was in my first year of college and then I went into school social work as a school social worker and found that the family system was so critical in the development of children, not only academically, but socially, physically and then spiritually as well. And so from that that interest and that that love, what I ended up doing is is beginning to explore what are the things, the elements within a family that help them thrive? And also, what is ...