114. When the Life You Wanted Doesn’t Fit Anymore

Hey Doc,

Let’s talk about something that sounds simple… but clearly is not.

You are allowed to change your mind.

I say that, and I already know some of you are side-eyeing me like, “Okay… but it’s not that easy.”

I know. I know it’s not.

Because in medicine, we don’t pivot. We commit. We decide and then we stick with it.

Even when life changes.

Even when we change.

Especially after motherhood.

I see this all the time.

Dr. So-and-so used to want the big cases, the leadership roles, the titles, the prestige.

Now? She wants to go to work, do her job well, and be home by 3 to sit on the floor with her babies.

And instead of feeling clear about that… she feels guilty.

Like she’s betraying the version of herself who worked so hard to get here.

Like she’s letting someone down: her mentors, her colleagues… or honestly, just herself.

So in this episode, we’re getting into that tension.

Not in a fluffy “just follow your heart” kind of way.

But in a real, grounded way that actually applies to your life right now.

We talk about:

• Why it feels so hard to change your mind as a physician mom
• The guilt that shows up when your priorities shift
• The difference between “becoming a different person” vs actually evolving
• Why your old goals don’t have to define your current decisions
• And how to give yourself permission to want something different without spiraling about it

Because let me be very clear about something:

Wanting a different life now does not erase who you were.

It means you’ve lived enough to know what actually matters to you.

That’s not failure.

That’s growth.

And if you’re sitting there trying to force yourself to want the same things you wanted at 28…

Yeah. We’re not doing that anymore.

If this hits a little too close to home (which it probably does),

go ahead and press play.

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