Be Narcissist Adjacent to Win

The most powerful thing I ever did for my career was stop watching what everyone else was doing and go all in on what I was doing — and I want you to do the same. In this episode, I break down what I mean by being "narcissist adjacent" and why that mindset is essential not just for speakers, but for anyone who wants to compete and win at the highest level. If you're spending your energy tracking the competition and scrolling past other people's highlight reels, you're leaving your own birdie putt short.

Key Takeaways

• Being narcissist adjacent does not mean being a narcissist — it means being so devoted to your craft that you stop being distracted by what everyone else is doing.
• Imposter syndrome and insecurity often show up as obsession with the competition rather than focus on your own growth.
• Confidence at its root means complete trust in yourself — and you cannot fully trust yourself when you are constantly looking outward.
• Never leave it short. Giving everything and falling short beats the regret of wondering what would have happened if you had tried harder.
• Whether you are in a good system or a bad one, confident people find a way to make things happen — confidence is the number one skill you need in life.

Action Steps

1. Audit where your attention goes daily — if you are spending time monitoring the competition or scrolling social media out of insecurity, redirect that energy toward improving your own skills and output.
2. Look in the mirror and ask yourself three honest questions: What do I need to work on? What do I need to focus on? And am I truly giving my all right now?
3. Go all in on whatever you are doing this week — commit at a level where someone tells you that you are doing too much, and keep going anyway.

Notable Quote I can live with giving my all to something and that not working out, versus going home saying, man, if I just would have tried a little bit harder.