You Are Not the Problem

Late-Diagnosed ADHD Women and the Invisible Forces That Shape Us

De: Liz Lewis, Terry Matlen - introduction

I want you to remember you are not the problem.

ADHD in women is still widely misunderstood which often makes navigating the world as an ADHD woman exhausting and filled with shame. Why do I find things so challenging that other women do with ease? Why can't I get anywhere on time?

Drawing on her professional experience within the ADHD community as well as her work with late-diagnosed ADHD women, Liz Lewis is here to put these anxieties to rest. She reveals the hidden costs of masking and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, navigating relationships and motherhood, and the impossible "Triple Bind" that demands women excel in all domains while appearing effortlessly perfect.

Using stories, science, cultural analysis and humour to examine the influence of ADHD, this book can help you question the beliefs and expectations that have hindered you and encourage you reclaim space. This isn't a manual for "fixing" yourself - it's a roadmap for understanding your neurological differences with compassion.©2026 Liz Lewis (P)2026 Jessica Kingsley Publishers

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This book says what ADHD women have felt but were never allowed to name. Liz Lewis is fearless, honest, and deeply validating, challenging outdated narratives while offering compassion without sugarcoating. A necessary read. (Brooke Schnittman, ADHD Coach, Coach Trainer & Founder, Coaching with Brooke)

I loved this book and am happy to recommend it. Liz writes like she's your wise, informed best friend. She engagingly and honestly describes the challenges women with ADHD have in every stage of life. If you're looking for a book easy on the eyes and food for your soul, this is it. (Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Founder, www.FINDtheADHDgirls.org)

The male-centered lens of ADHD has needed to be expanded for decades. In "You Are Not The Problem", Liz Lewis does just that. She explores what it is like to grow up as a woman with ADHD from both a personal and expert perspective, discussing such topics as the reasons for, and impact of, late diagnosis in women, ADHD and the feminine ideal, ADHD's effect on relationships (both romantic and platonic), even hormones and perimenopause. And as proof of Liz's expertise, it's an ADHD-friendly read. If you are a woman with late diagnosed ADHD, or love someone who is, buy this book! (Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S., author of “Overcoming the Wall of Awful” and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast)

After years of struggling to meet expectations and feeling invisible, women diagnosed with ADHD as adults will finally feel seen and understood. Liz Lewis' must-read book is like a conversation over coffee with a knowledgeable friend, offering compassion, depth and humor. (Joyce Cooper-Kahn, Ph.D., Co-Author of Late, Lost and Unprepared: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children with Executive Functioning, 2nd Edition, and Boosting Executive Skills in the Classroom: A Practical Guide for Educators)

Liz Lewis writes with honesty and depth. This book dismantles stigma, explains the lived complexity of ADHD in women, and provides a language that empowers rather than blames. A validating, insightful companion for anyone navigating late diagnosis. (Dr Lotta Borg Skoglund MD, PhD author of "ADHD Girls to Women - Getting on the Radar" "Female Hormones and ADHD - The Impact on Brain and Body" and the peer-support app "ADHD Squad")

You are Not the problem is an imminently readable must-have for the libraries of women with ADHD everywhere. It is a refreshing, real take on absolutely everything ADHD-in-women. Lewis' wit, humor, and ability to make research actually interesting are unparalleled. Combining funny and touching stories with a strong evidence base, this book accurately conveys essential aspects of ADHD for women that others simply don't. Liz gets to the heart of the matter, and makes you laugh along the way, like only she can. You Are Not the Problem should become a staple read in no time! (Michelle Frank, Clinical Psychologist and Co-author of A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD)