You Were Never Meant to Be the Perfect Mum. Diving into Perfectionism in Parenting with Dr. Bianca Mastromanno

In this thoughtful and reassuring conversation, the host sits down with perinatal clinical psychologist Dr. Bianca Mastromanno to unpack the pressure many mums quietly carry, the belief that they must be perfect. Together they explore the “perfect mother myth,” where it comes from, why high-achieving and people-pleasing women often struggle with it most, and how striving to meet every need perfectly can actually fuel anxiety and burnout. Through research, clinical insights, and honest personal stories, this episode reframes what healthy parenting truly looks like. Instead of perfection, Dr. Bianca highlights the power of “good enough” parenting, where mistakes, repair, and self-compassion become essential parts of raising resilient and secure children.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. What the “perfect mother myth” is and why it still shapes modern motherhood
2. Why high achievers and “good girl” personalities are especially vulnerable to parenting perfectionism
3. How cultural expectations, social narratives, and generational beliefs fuel unrealistic standards
4. What research actually says about secure attachment and “good enough” parenting
5. Why rupture and repair moments are essential for children’s emotional development
6. How perfectionism can quietly steal joy from everyday parenting moments
7. Practical ways to challenge perfectionist thinking and reconnect with your values as a parent
8. A powerful self-compassion exercise to help you speak to yourself with the same kindness you give your child

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