EP 3626 Fill the cup of those that fill yours

In EP 3626, Fill the cup of those that fill yours, Shaun O'Gorman challenges how most people treat relationships. We get lazy with the people who show up for us, and we over invest in the people who don't. Then we wonder why we feel drained, resentful, and alone.

This episode is a reminder that reciprocity is not selfish. It is leadership. If someone consistently gives you time, honesty, energy, and support, your job is to notice, appreciate it, and return it. That can be a message, an introduction, a lift when they are struggling, or being present without making it about you.

Shaun also tackles the mistake that destroys friendships, teams, and marriages. People quit when it is tough, in the heat of disappointment, stress, and ego. That is when you are most likely to burn a bridge you actually needed. Instead, decide your standards when it is easy. When you are calm, clear, and not triggered.

Try this today. Write down the three people who fill your cup. Next to each name, write one way you can give back this week. Then write the three relationships that drain you. Decide, in advance, what boundary you will hold.

Set your quit criteria in advance. What is acceptable? What is not? How many conversations will you have before you step back? What behaviours are deal breakers? When you make those decisions from clarity, you are far less likely to actually quit, because you are not reacting, you are choosing.

If you are rebuilding after a hard chapter, building a business, or trying to become a better partner and leader, this is the framework. Protect the people who protect you. Pour into the people who pour into you. And if you need to change course, do it with integrity, not impulse.