EP 3627 Fix mindset is ego. Growth mindset is presence

EP 3627 cuts through the buzzwords and gets honest about what "mindset" really is. A fixed mindset is not lack of intelligence. It is ego protection. It is the part of you that needs to be right, needs to look competent, and needs to avoid discomfort. It defends a story about who you are, even when that story is costing you results, intimacy, and peace.

A growth mindset is not positive thinking. It is presence. It is the ability to stay with what is happening right now without defending yourself. Presence lets you hear feedback without taking it as an attack. It lets you own your part without collapsing into shame. It lets you train, learn, and adapt instead of arguing with reality.

In this episode, I break down how fixed mindset shows up in real life: getting reactive in a relationship, making excuses at work, avoiding hard conversations, and quitting when you feel exposed. You will learn how ego disguises itself as "standards" and "boundaries" while actually being fear of being seen as wrong.

If you want a practical shift today, use this three step reset:

1. Notice the moment you feel threatened, defensive, or eager to prove a point.

2. Name it: "That is ego trying to stay safe."

3. Return to presence with one question: "What is the next truthful action?"

Truthful action might be apologising, asking a better question, doing the rep, making the call, or setting a boundary you will actually enforce.

Fixed mindset keeps you performing. Growth mindset keeps you improving. Presence is the bridge. Listen in if you are done protecting an identity and ready to build a life that matches your standards.

This is for leaders, parents, partners, and anyone who wants to stop blaming circumstances and start taking responsibility, calmly, today.