EP 3622 Look at what they do, not what they say

In EP 3622 of The Strong Life Project Podcast, I'm pulling you back to a simple rule that saves you years of confusion: judge people by behaviour, not by promises. Anyone can talk. Anyone can apologise. Anyone can say they're committed. The truth is always in the pattern, what they repeat when it costs them something.

This applies everywhere. In relationships, it's the partner who says "I love you" but keeps choosing their phone, their mates, or their ego over showing up. In business, it's the client or colleague who sells a big story but delivers excuses. In leadership, it's the manager who talks culture but rewards politics and tolerates disrespect. Words can be a smokescreen. Actions are the receipt.

And it's not just about other people. It's about you. If you keep saying you want a better body, a calmer mind, or a stronger relationship, your calendar will tell the truth. Your habits are your vote. Consistency beats intention every time.

The silver lining is this: once you focus on behaviour, you get your power back. You stop negotiating with reality. You stop trying to rescue people into being who they claim to be. You make cleaner decisions, faster. You set boundaries without drama. You invest your time, energy, and trust where it's earned.

In this episode I'll give you a practical filter: pick one person or situation you feel stuck in and write down three facts, what they did, what they didn't do, and what it cost you. No stories. No excuses. Just data. Then ask one ruthless question: "If this pattern continues for the next 12 months, what will my life look like?" That answer is your next move.

Look at what they do. Then look at what you're tolerating. That's where change starts.