EP 3621 The barn burnt down, now I can see the sky

EP 3621 uses a simple idea to punch a hole through your excuses: sometimes the thing you're grieving was also the thing blocking your view.

When life "burns down the barn" it can feel like pure loss. A relationship ends. A job disappears. Health changes. A plan collapses. Your ego takes a hit. Your routine gets wrecked. And your nervous system starts screaming for certainty.

But here's the uncomfortable truth: a lot of what you called "stability" was actually clutter. Old identities. Bad habits that felt familiar. Commitments you outgrew but kept feeding because quitting looked like failure.

In this episode, I walk you through how to find the silver lining without pretending the fire didn't hurt. The point isn't to love what happened. The point is to use what happened.

You'll learn how to separate what you lost from what you learned, and how to stop rebuilding the same structure that trapped you in the first place. This is where people either get bitter, or they get better. Not through positive thinking. Through honest thinking and deliberate action.

Practical takeaways include:

What to keep when everything changes.

What to cut when you finally have a clean slate.

How to rebuild your days around values, not mood.

How to turn disruption into clarity, momentum, and better choices.

If you're in a season where things have fallen apart, this episode will help you stop staring at the ashes and start using the open sky.