Understanding Intimacy Transitions a Boy from Manhood to Fatherhood

In a world suffering from the effects of fatherlessness how does a society address this monumental problem? It all starts when boys are young and their understanding of life excludes the Biblical concept of intimacy. The rite of passage from adolescence to adulthood usually involves a discussion of sex. Does this conversation, which often happens between a father and son, include a discussion of intimacy? Is there a father present to have this discussion with their son?

When the social order suffers under the absence of fathers, the children suffer. Fathers are not birthed; fathers are raised. Boys do not automatically grow up becoming fathers. The absence of the presence of fathers in all of our social institutions is a rudimentary and fundamental foundational problem.

How can we begin to address this issue? For starters let's discuss the opportunity to discuss sex with a young man. In the first place, you know you will have his undivided attention. He is going to be most interested in this subject. The hard part is going to know where to begin. A good place to start would be what are the young man's questions? What is he asking? Asking questions is a good place to start to have an intimate conversation.

Ironically, the asking of questions (which establishes intimate conversation) are an underpinning to a trusting relationship. This can transition to teaching about sex from the point of view of intimacy. Intimacy is foundational to a proper Biblical understanding of sexual communion. Additional concepts of covenant and procreation follow suit.

Come listen to Papa Tom describe stories from his life which affected him most as a father and grandfather. These stories affected his perception of how he or any father could better teach their sons about life, starting with the most delicate subject of sex. It's very important this subject is handled correctly so that the young man will be able to experience his rite of passage into fatherhood himself.

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Blessings:

Papa Tom