You Matter, Too

A Trauma-Informed Self-Help Workbook for Family and Professional Caregivers with Tools to Reclaim Yourself in a Life Devoted to Others

You are the one holding their world together. But who is holding space for you?

Caregiving begins with love.
It lives in the space between profound devotion and bone-deep depletion.
It’s a reality of contradictions—where your heart is full of love, your mind a relentless ticker tape of worries and what-ifs, and your body aching in places your doctor dismisses as “just stress.”

This is the silent, unseen work of a caregiver.

It’s the moment you catch your reflection and barely recognize the capable, worn-out stranger staring back.
It’s the strange, surreal grief of mourning someone who is still sitting right across the room.
It’s the flash of resentment that’s immediately followed by a tidal wave of shame.
It’s the profound loneliness that settles in when friends stop calling and the world moves on.

For too long, caregiving has been romanticized as saintly sacrifice.
You are praised for being strong—while you feel yourself breaking.

Your exhaustion is real.
Your complicated feelings are valid.
And this book is the proof.

You Matter, Too is a deeply compassionate, comprehensive guide for anyone holding the watch—whether you're a family caregiver, a professional caregiver, or both. This is the book you find when you're on the floor, convinced you're failing—and it looks you in the eye and says: “I see you. This is trauma. And you are allowed to be falling apart.”

INSIDE THIS WORKBOOK, YOU’LL FIND A COMPLETE TOOLKIT TO SUPPORT YOUR EXPERIENCE:

✓ A more honest understanding of caregiver trauma
This isn’t just burnout—it’s the slow, cumulative toll of grief, hypervigilance, and losing pieces of yourself along the way. What you’re feeling is real, and it deserves to be named.

✓ Validation for every emotion
Anger, resentment, guilt, numbness—these aren’t signs of failure. They’re signs you’ve been carrying too much for too long. This book helps you process what’s been buried without shame.

✓ Care for your body, not just your mind
Learn how caregiving affects your nervous system, sleep, and health—and discover small ways to feel grounded, even in chaos.

✓ A path to rediscover yourself
If you’ve lost sight of who you are beyond the role, you’ll find gentle guidance for reconnecting with the self you’ve had to put on hold.

✓ Support for the hardest caregiving truths
Including:
— Grieving someone who is still alive
— Caring for a parent or partner who once hurt you
— Feeling abandoned by family or unsupported by the system
— Juggling care for both children and elders
— Burnout in professional care roles

✓ Space for what comes next
When the role ends, the silence can be overwhelming. This book helps you navigate the grief, relief, and identity shifts—and begin reclaiming your life.

WHAT MAKES THIS BOOK DIFFERENT?

Most caregiving books offer checklists.
Others preach toxic positivity.
This one gives you your humanity back.

You Matter, Too is the first of its kind to blend trauma-informed care, emotional validation, and practical healing tools in one compassionate guide.

INSIDE, YOU WILL FIND:

✓ Cognitive Tools — To reframe guilt, inner criticism, and cultural myths that keep you stuck in self-blame
✓ Somatic Practices — To calm the dysregulated nervous system and help your body feel safe again
✓ Boundary Work — To equip you with real-life scripts, communication tools, and advocacy strategies

You’ve given so much of yourself.
This book is your permission slip to begin taking some of it back.

Because the person you’re fighting for… includes the one in the mirror.

YOU MATTER, TOO...