They’re About to Die. Now What?!

A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Hardest Days You’ll Ever Face

What do you do when someone you love is dying—and you're the one expected to hold it all together?
If you're overwhelmed, exhausted, and silently panicking, you're not alone—and you're not doing it wrong. They’re About to Die. Now What?! is a practical and emotional survival guide for the hardest days of your life.

Written in plain English with deep compassion, this short and powerful guide walks you step-by-step through what to say, do, ask, and prepare before your parent, partner, or loved one passes. It covers everything you wish someone had told you—including the stuff people don’t talk about until it’s too late.

Inside this book, you’ll learn:

• How to talk to doctors, hospice teams, and family without losing your mind

• What legal documents actually matter (and which ones you can skip)

• What to say to someone who’s dying—and what not to say

• How to manage resentment, estrangement, or being “the only one showing up”

• What to do if they won’t let go—and how to help them find peace

• How to help kids prepare to say goodbye

• What really happens in the first 24–48 hours after death

• How to take care of yourself when you’re barely holding it together

Whether you’re already in the thick of it or just starting to sense that the end is near, They’re About to Die. Now What?! is here to help you move through it with grace, clarity, and less fear.

This is the book people search for at 3 a.m. when the room is quiet and no one knows what to do next.

Written by Paul Barbie, author of My Parent Just Died. Now What?!, this guide is short enough to read in one sitting—and strong enough to hold you together when everything else is falling apart.