ADHD Diagnosis, Identity Realisation & Letting Kids Process at Their Own Pace | NeuroDADverse Ep.31

Welcome to Episode 31 of The NeuroDADverse, Ben and Dan talk openly about what happens after a diagnosis, when clarity arrives, but emotions are still catching up.This week includes a major family milestone for Ben: a formal ADHD diagnosis, and the complex feelings that follow. Relief. Validation. Grief. Confusion. Pride. And the quiet work of helping a child rebuild their sense of self after years of being told they were “too much” or “not enough.”In this episode, we discuss:What an ADHD diagnosis gives (and what it doesn’t)Why clarity doesn’t instantly equal confidenceHow identity is shaped by years of misunderstandingThe emotional impact of clinician questions about self-esteemMasking, unmasking, and delayed processingTemperature regulation, sensory overload, and emotional releaseWhy behaviour is communicationAdvocating in clinical settings without taking overLetting children grieve past experiences in their own timeMedication as a tool — not a cure or a verdictCelebrating wins gently, without pressureSibling connection, shared joy, and thoughtful gift-givingCinema trips as safe spaces and regulation anchorsThis episode is about holding space rather than rushing solutions, and remembering that diagnosis is not an ending — it’s context.As always, we want to remind you:You’re doing great.You are enough.And you are definitely not alone.Chapter Breakdown00:00 – Welcome to Episode 3100:44 – What This Podcast Is (and Why We Keep Doing It)01:47 – Three Words of the Week03:36 – A Big Medical Update in Our Household04:36 – ADHD Diagnosis: Why Clarity Matters06:12 – Advocating in the Clinician Appointment08:10 – When Kids Can’t Name Their Strengths10:00 – Self-Esteem, Identity & Being “Too Much”12:40 – Masking, Unmasking & Emotional Processing14:55 – Grief After Diagnosis (For Kids and Parents)17:20 – Giving Space Instead of Explanations19:35 – Temperature Regulation & Sensory Overload22:10 – Behaviour as Communication24:56 – Medication: Cautious Hope, Not Pressure26:42 – Why This Is a Step, Not a Solution29:08 – Oscar’s Birthday & Putting Kids First31:20 – Sibling Thoughtfulness & Unexpected Empathy33:26 – Cinema Trips as Safe Spaces35:01 – Regulation Wins in Busy Environments36:52 – Pain, Perception & ND Bodies38:32 – Missing the Bus & Learning Consequences Safely40:13 – Social Stories, Visual Supports & Transitions42:42 – Supermarkets, Sensory Load & Progress Over Time45:09 – Small Wins That Change Family Life46:40 – Looking Ahead Without Overloading48:23 – Attendance, Energy & Realistic Weeks50:41 – Why We Don’t Force Traditions52:25 – Closing Reflections53:47 – You’re Doing Great. You Are Enough🎙️ Two dads. One mission. Raising ND kids in a very NT world.💡 If this episode resonates, whether you’re a zebra, a stripy horse, or still figuring it all out. There’s space for you in the NeuroDADverse.🔔 Subscribe for weekly real-talk on neurodivergent parenting📢 Like, share, or leave a comment to help more families find us📧 Get in touch: [e-mail]🌐 Find us in all the usual places:linktr.ee/NeuroDADverse🎧 Listen on:•Apple Podcasts: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseApple•Spotify: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseSpotify📺 Watch full episodes + clips:Spotify: bit.ly/NeuroDADverseSpotifyYouTube: youtube.com/@NeuroDADversePodcast📲 Follow & connect:•TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@neurodadverse•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neurodadverse/•Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582530685142•LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/neurodadverse-podcast/?viewAsMember=true 🔗 Hashtags:#NeurodiverseParenting #SENDLife #AutismAdvocacy #ParentingPodcast#NeuroDadverse #DifferentNotLess #ADHDDads #AutismFamily Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.