Love Lost — and Found Again: How to Stop the Relationship Death Spiral Before It’s Too Late

In this episode of Now I Get It, I take a hard, compassionate look at one of the most tragic patterns I see in relationships: what I call the death spiral. It’s the painful process where two people genuinely love each other, yet slowly drift apart—not because love is gone, but because it’s never truly felt. I explain how our personalities shape the way we give and receive love, and why so many couples unknowingly miss each other despite constant effort.

I walk through how this spiral begins with good intentions, escalates through frustration and withdrawal, and often ends quietly—when the fighting stops and hope fades. But this episode isn’t about blame or despair. It’s about awareness and repair. By understanding personality-driven love expressions and learning to recognize what truly resonates with your partner, it’s possible to reverse the cycle, rebuild connection, and restore the mutual affection that brought you together in the first place.

In this episode, you will learn:

(00:00) Why loving someone deeply isn’t enough to sustain a relationship

(01:10) How personality shapes the way we give and receive love

(02:17) Why both partners often feel they’re giving more than they get

(03:15) How “trying harder” can accelerate relational breakdown

(04:00) The stages of the relationship death spiral—from criticism to silence

(05:11) How understanding love languages tied to personality can reverse the spiral

(05:45) How mutual appreciation and attraction can be restored over time

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