You Can't Even Pick What You Want for Lunch. Let's Talk About That feat. Jillian Reilly

Here's the thing nobody tells you: the way you order at a restaurant says A LOT about how you move through life.

Are you the person who waits to hear what everyone else is getting before you decide? Do you need everyone's opinion before you can choose? Are you picking what you want, and it feels weirdly vulnerable?

Yeah. We need to talk.

In this episode, I sit down with Jillian Reilly, author of Ten Permissions: How to Stop Waiting and Start Living, to talk about why so many of us can't make the smallest choices for ourselves, and what that says about the bigger life we're (not) living.

We dig into:

• Why approval-seeking starts at lunch and ends with your whole identity
• The terror of wanting something no one else validates
• How to build choice-making muscles before you blow up your life
• Why pleasure isn't selfish (and might be the most strategic thing you can practice)
• What happens when the old rules stop working, and there's no new manual

This conversation is for the overthinkers, the people-pleasers, the ones who've spent decades being "good" and are now sitting in the rubble of what that actually got them.



About Jillian Reilly

Jillian Reilly is a founder, author, and keynote speaker. Having spent her 30-year career working in social, organisational, and individual change across Africa, Asia, and Central Europe, Jillian’s focus is on helping people unlock their ability to navigate change and accelerate growth and learning. Jillian’s book, The Ten Permissions, guides readers in permitting themselves to update how they operate in the 21st century and design lives that fully leverage the possibilities of this disruptive world. Jillian is a TEDX speaker and podcast host who has been published on international affairs in the Washington Post, Newsweek and the LA Times.

Find Jillian

• Website: tenpermissions.com

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