E1059 The Call You Never Talk About

In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton address a reality many first responders carry in silence: there is at least one call you never talk about—not with coworkers, not with family, sometimes not even with yourself. It wasn't necessarily the worst call on paper. It might not be the one others expect. But it's the one that surfaces in quiet moments (Amazon Affiliate), shows up in dreams, or tightens your chest without warning. This episode explores why certain calls stay locked away, how silence compounds their impact, and what healing looks like when you finally give those memories somewhere safe to land. 💡 Psychological Concept: Unprocessed Trauma Memory Unprocessed Trauma Memory occurs when an experience is too overwhelming to integrate at the time it happens. Instead of becoming a narrative memory (something you can recall and talk about), it remains stored as sensory fragments—images, sounds, sensations, emotions. For first responders, this happens when: • the call violated personal values • there was a strong sense of helplessness • the outcome felt unjust or unfinished • emotions had to be suppressed to keep functioning • there was no space or permission to process afterward Silence doesn't erase these memories—it preserves them. 🚑 5 Reasons Some Calls Never Get Talked About You're Afraid It Will Change How People See You Admitting how deeply it affected you feels risky. You Don't Have the Words for It Some experiences live in the body, not language. You Minimize It Because Others "Had It Worse" Comparison keeps you quiet—but doesn't heal you. You're Protecting the People You Love Silence feels like shielding your family from pain. You Believe Talking Won't Help So you carry it alone—year after year. 🛠 5 Ways to Begin Healing the Call You've Buried Acknowledge It Exists Healing starts when you stop pretending it didn't matter. Choose a Safe Container to Share Peer support, a therapist, chaplain, or trusted partner—not everyone needs the story. Share the Impact, Not the Details You don't need to relive the call—just express what it changed in you. Use the Body to Release What Words Can't Movement, breathwork, grounding, or somatic therapy help process stored stress. Let Go of the Timeline for "Being Over It" Trauma heals with attention, not deadlines. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters: The call you never talk about doesn't stay silent—it finds other ways to speak through sleep, relationships, irritability, or emotional distance. You don't have to carry it alone. And you don't have to relive it to release it. 🎙 Listen now to understand why some calls stay buried—and how to finally give them the care and closure they deserve. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What's one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: [e-mail] 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie's Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement