The Brutal Truth About Men, Silence, & Relationships: The "Gloves Off After Dark" Best Of

The Brutal Truth About Men, Silence, & Relationships: The "Gloves Off After Dark" Premiere

"If you want a man to pursue you... he's got to know that you can walk out the door at any time. That is the mic drop right now." — Joshua T. Berglan

In this debut episode of Gloves Off After Dark, Dr. Kalpana Sandar and The World's Mayor, Joshua T. Berglan, strip away the polite filters to discuss what really happens when the lights go down. They tackle the "weight of silence" men carry, the destructive nature of trauma responses, and the raw truth about what makes a relationship actually work.

The Weight of Silence & Trauma Responses

Joshua opens up about his past, revealing how childhood abuse led to a "socially slutty" trauma response—using sex and drugs to find validation. Dr. Kalpana contrasts this with her own experience of becoming a workaholic overachiever to "earn" love in a household where it wasn't freely given.

• The Consensus: Whether it’s substance abuse or perfectionism, these are just different masks for the same pain.
• The Shift: Both hosts discuss the journey from reacting out of emotion to responding from a grounded, truthful place.

The Power of Radical Truth

Joshua discusses how learning to lie was a survival mechanism in his childhood but became the most toxic element of his adult life. The breakthrough came with radical honesty. At 46, he finally loves his life because he stopped hiding, emphasizing that "the truth set me free to be me unapologetically."

Monogamy vs. Distraction

In a candid exchange about sexual ethics, Joshua explains why he chose monogamy after a life of being a "sexual deviant" and exploring the swinger lifestyle.

• Purpose Over Pleasure: He realized that non-monogamy became a "massive distraction" from his higher purpose.
• Soul Ties: He argues that an empowered, monogamous relationship where both partners pour their energy into each other is more fulfilling than the chaos of the chase.

The "Mic Drop": Healthy Fear & Empowered Women

The conversation peaks when Joshua argues that men need a "healthy fear" (respect) in a relationship—knowing that their partner has the self-worth to leave if boundaries are crossed.

• Stop Looking for "Mommies": He challenges men to stop looking for rescuers and start appreciating empowered women.
• The Payoff: When a woman feels safe, respected, and empowered, she shows up fully—emotionally and sexually.

Conclusion

This episode is a call to arms for authenticity. Whether single or partnered, Joshua and Dr. Kalpa urge viewers to stop judging others, define their own path, and realize that a relationship without truth is just a "safety blanket" for complacency.

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