What Death by A Thousand Cuts Sounds Like

In this episode, Josh talks about one of the most common and least dramatic ways relationships fall apart — not through blowups, betrayal, or big moments, but through not being heard.

Drawing from a real couples session, he explains how two opposite experiences can be happening at the same time, and how one partner slowly loses themselves when their inner world goes unseen. Over time, that invisibility adds up — not in one fatal wound, but in hundreds of small cuts.

Josh breaks down why feeling unheard is so corrosive to intimacy, why defensiveness kills connection, and how simply learning to truly listen can be the difference between a relationship that survives and one that quietly dies.

Most relationships don't end with a bang.

It's usually death by a thousand cuts.